African men must embrace fatherhood

2012-03-17 08:44

I have recently gone through a life-altering experience. I welcomed a new being into my life.

During a conversation I had with friends, we discussed our childhoods.

I remember my childhood years quite vividly and fondly. They were among the happiest times in my existence.

As I recounted my memories to my friends, they were utterly aghast at the role my father played in my upbringing.

I was equally shocked by their response and disbelief in the reversal of gender roles.

To paint you a picture of my childhood, I grew up ekasi during the 1980s. It was a time where children played those old-school games in the streets until they turned red from dust.

A period where a mere 50c could buy all the snacks your heart desired.

Yes, in my home the roles based on gender were contrary to those held by tradition. My mother worked at the local hospital.

She owned and drove a car. My father also owned his, but he had taken an early retirement, which meant that he was home most of the time.

As an African man, I believe my father was ahead of his time.

I have memories of him getting me ready for daycare.

I recall him teaching me the Freedom Charter of 1955 and teaching me how to tell time. We would sit together having coffee – I felt so grown up.

To me he was a positive male role model. I do not know how he felt about those times, and the role he played.

Culturally, an African man who would play a pivotal role in raising a child in the manner that my father did would be viewed as an emasculated man.

Traditionally, women are the ones expected to rear the children, while the men are away from the homestead.

While the men are away, the women are the ones shaping the kind of person the child will become when they are young adults.

Raising a child is one of life’s important and challenging tasks, as that person will have a part in shaping the future. When the men are away from home, they are missing out.

On my personal journey, I will be raising a boy child. He will grow up without an emphasis on gender work division, or any gender-specific roles.

I will do this in the hope of shaping a man who will have respect for gender equality in all aspects of life.

Opposing that cultural belief, men, particularly African men, should be encouraged to play a more participatory role in raising their children and in that way, they imprint a personal stamp on the future adult.

» Yonke is an aspirant writer 

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