‘How can I make my penis bigger?’

2014-11-02 15:00

Resident #Trending sex coach Jade Zwane has been flooded with reader questions. She takes some time to answer what’s on your mind. This one’s for the guys

Dear Jade,

How can I make my penis bigger? Mine is small.

There are products on the market that you can attach to your penis to increase either the length or width. You can either buy a silicone girth extender or length extender. These can be found in most adult shops. Remember that although size matters, it does not matter as much as enthusiasm. Try to relax about the size of your penis and focus on having a good time.

I want to kiss, fondle and touch my wife. I want to do more than just penetrate her. But each time I try to talk to her about it, the conversation results in conflict. How can I have a better sex life when she won’t talk to me?

You’re going to have to have the necessary conversation with your partner. You’ll have to risk upsetting your partner to possibly get the sex you desire. If she still refuses to have a discussion, leave. She clearly doesn’t care about your needs and/or desires, making the relationship one-sided.

Every time I make love to my wife, I hardly last five minutes. What can help me delay ejaculation?

We often build up anxiety about our performance and this can lead to us falling short or, in your case, not lasting long. You need to relax. It’s supposed to be fun. When you feel you are about to climax, you can pull out and change positions. You can also masturbate and in this way learn to control your ejaculation.

My wife does not get wet during sex. Is this a sickness?

Hormones, stress levels and other factors can contribute to her not getting wet. I’m assuming you have foreplay to get her ready. Try lubricants on the market. First start with a water-based one, which is less irritable on sensitive skin.

I really want to be touched, kissed and have sex, but my wife doesn’t want much sex and kissing. What canI do?

You need to talk to her about not wanting affection and sex. Find out about her likes and dislikes. You and your wife need to sit down and have an honest conversation with each other.

I am a 34-year-old male. I have been with one partner in the last year and still practise safe sex. I have an inflammation on my foreskin and a discharge. What could it be and how do I treat it?

Discharge in males could be due to a number of reasons, including infections that are sexually transmitted, most of which are treatable. Your foreskin could be inflamed from irritation, infection, or even poor hygiene. I suggest you see a doctor immediately and not engage in sex until your doctor has given you the go-ahead.

Where can I find your book eDICKted? I need a copy of my own.

You can order it by emailing jade@jadezwane.co.za.

Do you have a question for Jade? SMS your question to 34283, beginning with the keyword SEX. SMSes cost R1.50. Alternatively, email trending@citypress.co.za

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