No entanglements. No emotions. Married women are all about sex

2015-04-20 17:30

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Kagiso Madi* (31) met his married girlfriend two years ago at a shopping centre in Steeledale, south of Joburg.

“It was love at first sight. I greeted her, we exchanged numbers and we hit it off,” Madi said.

At their meeting, she confessed that she was married to a Congolese man and he told her he also had a girlfriend.

But that did not stop them. Most of their interaction is on messenger platform WhatsApp, and they see each other whenever they are both free.

“We always have to plan beforehand when we see each other. It is mostly on Sundays during the day,” he explained.

Asked why he’s cheating with a married woman, he said that after breaking up with the mother of his daughter in 2012, he did not want a serious relationship.

“Dating a married woman means I can have my cake and still eat it as I am not bound by emotions and other entanglements that come with dating a single woman,” he said.

He said his lover – who does not have children – had indicated last year that she would like a child with him.

“But I have not agreed and we have not discussed the matter since,” he said.

He admits that there’s no love, at least on his part. “It is mostly about sex for me,” he said insistently. So is it for money?

“No, she does not give me money as she’s unemployed at the moment. But ours is a sexual relationship.”

He said he does not like the fact that she often demands money from him. “Why should I give her money when she has a husband?”

He said they are lucky they have never been caught by their partners.

“We usually meet at her friend’s place. They normally throw house parties and I get invited. I also invite her to my place then we’ll have wine and chill,” he said.

But he said one of her husband’s friends recently saw them holding hands in the street and threatened to tell her husband.

“It turns out the same friend is a cheat and she knows a thing or two about his cheating ways. His threat was nothing to us,” he said.

“I’m enjoying it while it lasts ... and not getting emotionally attached.”

* Names have been changed to protect the identity of those involved.

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