Man accused of molesting grandchild

2010-09-08 00:00

A 34-YEAR-OLD woman is devastated that her father, whom she had forgiven and never charged for sexually molesting her, went on to molest her seven-year-old daughter.

“He was my father whom I was taught to honour and obey: what was I to do?” said the confused and angry woman.

She broke her silence following the arrest on Monday of her 65-year-old father, who is a retired Education Department official, for allegedly molesting her daughter. The man is expected to appear at the Howick Magistrate’s Court today.

“I was 21 years old when I put a stop to what my father was doing to me. This was when for the first time I opened up to my mother about what was happening. I had also suspected that he was molesting my younger sister.”

She said their mother stood by them and confronted their father.

“He begged for forgiveness and we accepted him back into our lives because he is our father,” said the woman.

The woman said she never suspected that her father was abusing her daughter until Wednesday, August 4, when her child complained about pain in her private parts.

The child was taken to a doctor then to a provincial hospital where the violation was confirmed.

“My husband wanted to attack my father and the family had to restrain him and calm him down. We went and immediately reported the abuse to the police.”

Her father disappeared to Durban for about two weeks until family members arranged his return. The man was arrested in his Howick West home, outside Pietermaritzburg.

None of the arrested man’s alleged victims can be identified because of the nature of the offences.

The woman, who is a fashion designer, said she learnt a bitter and painful lesson that paedophiles never change. She sobbed as she said she would have to live with the guilt of not having charged her father for her own abuse. Had she done so, she would have saved her daughter.

Although she never witnessed her father molesting her sister, the woman said she knew what was happening when the father called her sibling into his bedroom.

“When he called her in I would follow and try to peep through the closed door. Although I would not see anything I would know what was happening to her because it also happened to me,” she said.

The woman said that when she married she went to live with her husband. Later they became desperate for shelter and her parents offered her an outside building to rent. This was when the abuse of her daughter took place. She has since moved out. “I can no longer face my father after what he has done to my daughter,” she said.

Police spokesperson Warrant Officer Joey Jeevan confirmed that a case of sexual assault has been opened against the man.

“He is expected to appear in Howick Magistrate’s Court, probably tomorrow [today],” said Jeevan.



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