The skinny on date shocks

2014-09-29 00:00

WHAT would happen when the person you meet after making a date on an app for singles turns out to be a lot heavier than his or her photo?

A social experiment with hidden cameras by Simple PickUp on YouTube showed men walk away and the women stay seated.

In the experiment a lithe male and female model posed on the beach in swimwear and uploaded these photos on the dating app Tinder. They then put on a bit of makeup and a fat suit to meet their dates at a restaurant.

Only one of the five men who arrived for the date stayed in their seats to talk to the “fat” female model.

The other four quickly made their excuses. One asked: “How old is the photo on Tinder?” and another: “Are you pregnant?” while a third said it irritated him when people lied to him. The fourth said he had to go to the bathroom and did not return.

All the female dates stayed to talk to their “overweight” dates. One woman said yes for a next date and another gave the model a goodbye kiss.

The women were also more subtle in their criticism of the photo that did not show the current “package”.

“I did not recognise you,” one said.

Clinical sexologist and relations expert Elmari Mulder Craig said men put more value on visual appearances than women. “For women, the energy and charisma are important and that is why they look to the eyes and hands.

“A man looks at the whole picture and for the type of person who uses such a [dating] site to look at photos, appearances are important,” although there are always exceptions to the rule.

Women were also probably surprised by the discrepancy between the model’s photo and his appearance, but they tried not to hurt his feelings, she said..

Clinical psychologists and relationship specialist in Johannesburg, Sandra Brownrigg, said the women and men probably experience the same shock but just convey it differently.

“Men are more reactive while women are more willing to first talk and engage in conversation.”

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