Sibongile Mafu

Love is a battlefield

2013-10-31 10:11

Sibongile Mafu

It has been proven time and time again that men can't live without their penises. That unsightly appendage, the fifth limb I call it, that gets itself into heaps of trouble, and refuses to behave in an orderly manner. The penis is that student in class that is never able to follow instructions or walk in a single file, is always on the naughty list and forever in detention. It is loved and hated, worshipped and loathed.

It defines manhoods and self-esteems amongst those who possess them, and when it strays where it shouldn't, away from the women it promised forever to, the force used against it by the scorned woman can leave a mess only holy water can clean.

For years, women have been exacting violent and bloody revenge on the men who they thought loved them by quite dramatic means (the revenge and the strength of the love). Severed penises and scorned lover stories litter the internet as "Wow!" and "Unbelievable!" reactions reverberate through social media and comments sections everywhere.

A messy situation

The most recent story was of a woman who caught her boyfriend with another woman and ordered them to strip naked. It is alleged that the woman took out a knife, God knows where she grabbed it from and whether she'd planned this, and cut off her boyfriend's (now ex-boyfriend I presume) penis. She cut his member right off, effectively ending his instrument of infidelity, his weapon of waywardness, his device of disloyalty... She had literally nipped it in the bud.

A messy situation, which I’m sure she could've have handled with what many would call "class", "within the boundaries of the law" and in a "lady-like manner", but she took on her own form of vigilantism, one-person mob justice in defence of broken hearts everywhere. This young woman took the law of love into her own hands, and for that sacrifice, will now most probably face many years behind bars if she is found guilty. Love is a battlefield and members will be lost in the war, the actual members of cheating partners. It was written. It’s a song.

She now faces attempted murder charges. Horrified reactions came from men and women and then something changed. A few responses started trickling in of people standing in solidarity with the woman. "He had it coming." "He should've known better than to cross a woman." Retribution is a messy business," as the e-TV voice promoting a Friday Action Night movie would say, and it seems going for the penis is a sure way to end it all right there and then, leaving no questions, and no means to cheat again.

Emotional adultery

But if only it were as simple as a severed penis to end all the pain caused by infidelity in the world. It's messier than that, believe it or not. Emotional adultery leaves a few more victims in its wake than physical adultery and dismembered members, and when a woman cuts off a man's penis and serves it up as her cold revenge dish, she must be hoping to just cut off his life supply, not kill him obviously, just make him incapable of harming her again with IT.

And shows like Women Who Kill and Snapped (which follows stories of women who have committed murder or attempted murder) continue to be enjoyed as people all over the world marvel and gasp at how women can behave this way, as if being a woman makes one incapable of truly horrific acts.

The stories of women going for the penis in their dramatic acts of revenge will continue because it must make sense to them at that point in time. There's a finality to it. This is something that will ruin him more than death ever could. And that is perhaps the most disturbing thought of all.

- Sibongile is a videographer, blogger and social media enthusiast who would be nothing without her thumbs. Follow her on Twitter: @SboshMafu.

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