Addicted to porn?

By Drum Digital
09 January 2014

For many, watching flesh flicks is a fleeting, guilty pleasure. But for those driven to use it more than they do sex with a real person, porn can become a real mental, emotional and physical trap.

For many, watching flesh flicks is a fleeting, guilty pleasure. But for those driven to use it more than they do sex with a real person, porn can become a real mental,  emotional and physical trap.

The good news is that with a combination of therapy and internet filters your addiction can be defeated.

It’s important to understand that porn isn’t all bad.

In fact, it can be a great aid for lovers when they feel it’s time to become a bit more adventurous in the bedroom.

But too much craving will numb your loins to the real life experience, which shows that moderation in just about everything is a good idea.

What often happens is that an addict attempts to compete with porn stars in the bedroom, forgetting that even porn stars don’t measure up to what they do on set. I’m sure you’ve figured out that flesh flicks are carefully edited to maximise the action – it doesn’t happen in one long, seamless take.

Sadly some porn addicts fail to climax when they’re with a real person and only ejaculate when they pleasure themselves while watching pornographic movies.

What’s worse is they often force their women to mimic the porn action and these dark fantasies can be perverse enough to scare any self-respecting girl away.

It’s no secret that most porn movies depict women as sexual objects – and if that’s  how you see women it will be an instant turn-off for any girl you date. What’s interesting is many porn addicts apparently tell sex therapists that it’s weird being with a real woman who has cellulite, stretch marks and boobs that aren’t ridiculously perky. In other words, they find it hard to re-adjust to the real world from the photoshopped, airbrushed and surgically  enhanced women on the screen. A sex therapist told me recently that a porn addict patient believed he had a big problem because the women he dated didn’t orgasm as loudly and enthusiastically as the girls in porn movies. “That’s normal; porn movies are not reality because the porn stars get paid to exaggerate the sex act,” the therapist chuckled as she recalled her reponse.

If you share the feelings of the therapist’s patient then you have a serious problem where reality and fantasy have become blurred. The best way to deal with your addiction is to seek the help of a qualified therapist.-

- Bra Lucas

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