Ask Sis Dolly: Engaged for 14 years

By Drum Digital
19 September 2016

I am 33 and my man is 55. I have been with him for 14 years and he paid lobolo to my family. But, last year he found out he has a 21-year-old son.

I am 33 and my man is 55. I have been with him for 14 years and he paid lobolo to my family. But, last year he found out he has a 21-year-old son. Now, he spends weekends with the son and the son’s mother, and he told me the woman wants to marry him and she doesn’t mind being the second wife. Please help me decide what to do,because I’m thinking of taking my baby and leaving him for good.

Sis Dolly answers

Let’s focus on what it is you want for yourself and your baby. Is being in a polygamous marriage something you would even consider? On the other hand, ask yourself what is keeping him from fulfilling his promise to marry you and make you his wife legally. Fourteen years is a long time to be engaged and to hold on to a promise that’s not realised. Just remember, time wasted never returns. You need to decide what you want before the years pass you by again.

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