Ask Sis Dolly: I feel worthless

By Drum Digital
22 November 2016

I found out two years ago that he joined a website to meet single ladies and chat to them, I confronted him and he said he was invited by someone and doesn’t know how to get out, he’s always on his phone and he starts using it from 5 am, checking his e-mails or chatting with friends, which sometimes disturbs my sleep

I’m 39 and my husband is 46. We’ve been married for 15 years and have three kids.

I’m a housewife and pregnant with our fourth. We had a good marriage but recently I feel worthless and betrayed.

I found out two years ago that he joined a website to meet single ladies and chat to them. I confronted him and he said he was invited by someone and doesn’t know how to get out.

He’s always on his phone and he starts using it from 5 am, checking his e-mails or chatting with friends, which sometimes disturbs my sleep.

I feel I’m not good enough for him. He apologises but I don’t trust him any more.

I also feel unappreciated because I don’t have any income or place to go.

Sis Dolly answers 

You have every right to react to anything that seems to threaten your marriage and its wellbeing. You also have every right to feel betrayed because this is someone to whom you have given 15 years of your life.

It’s going to be very difficult for you to believe anything that comes out of your husband’s mouth after all the things you’ve found out.

It will take even more strength and courage for you to trust him again. He has to work hard to earn it if he’s still willing to make your marriage work.

It’s critical that you seek the help of a marriage counselor.

Please call Famsa on 011-975-7106 for assistance.

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