Ask sis Dolly: I'm scared of my boyfriend

By Drum Digital
29 July 2015

He then beat me up.

My boyfriend accused me of cheating , knowing very well that he's guilty party. He then beat me up and I ended our relationship. A few days later he sent me a message saying he won't let me go. I love him but don't trust him. I'm scared of what he might do if I take him back, I'm really hurt by what he did. What do you think I should do?

Sis Dolly answers:

What more proof do you need that this guy is bad news? You are right to fear him and your decision to end things with him was the right one. Unless he's willing to go for counselling to work on his abusive and destructive behaviour before you take him back, he will most probably beat you up again. The thing with abuse is that at the beginning you think you can survive it and many women do, but the cost to you is really great. Abusers typically erode your self-confidence and self-esteem and then it becomes more difficult to leave a relationship because you doubt yourself. Don't take him back. You made the best decision for your well-being.

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