Ask Sis Dolly: I’m still waiting to become his wife

By Drum Digital
12 February 2016

I’ve been dating a guy for eight years. During this time he had a cultural marriage with another woman because of his religion.

He keeps saying he loves me and wants to make me his second wife because we share a child.

I love him but want to leave as I don’t think he’s serious about me, and feel that his family won’t accept me because of his religion.

Sis Dolly answers:

I agree with you. He would’ve married you already if that was his intention,and if his religion wasn’t an issue.

However, he’s serious about having two relationships to suit his needs and I’m sure he means it when he says he loves you.

But if he was really serious about marrying you he would stand up for his belief in your relationship and make a plan for you to be his wife.

Instead, he’s happy to have a relationship with you while pretending to his family that he’s fully entrenched in the values of this religion by having a wife they approve of.

He’s living a lie and you don’t need to be a part of it.

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