Ask sis Dolly: Should I tell him?

By Drum Digital
26 May 2015

I fell pregnant while in Grade 10.

I dated a guy for almost four years. In 2011, I was scared of my parents, so I had an abortion. When I told my boyfriend I was pregnant he asked, "Who impregnated you?" I assumed he wanted nothing to do with it and felt if I kept the baby I would be kicked out by my parents. I was confused. Now, should I tell him the truth or not? I told him I had a miscarriage.

Sis Dolly answers:

It's not clear if you're still dating this guy. if you were having unprotected sex with him at the time, what did he mean by "who impregnated you?" That was just a bullying tactic to make you feel unsure of yourself. given your your situation, you made the best decision for you at the time. If you're not dating him, you don't owe him an explanation. If you're still dating him, you don't owe him an explanation. If you're still dating him, why do you want to tell him the truth? It's fine to tell him, but only if he's mature enough to handle it.

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