Busting the "First Impression" myth

By Drum Digital
09 October 2014

Do you often find yourself coming out of a date saying things like, “there just wasn't any chemistry between us”?

Do you often find yourself coming out of a date saying things like, “there just wasn't any chemistry between us”?

Try to replace first impressions with second glances. If there's absolutely no attraction, that's fine but if it's just a matter of “need to feel some spark” or requiring the "wow factor" before you'll think of a second date, think twice.

Chemistry is not an all-or-nothing, black-or-white thing.

Can you think of happily loved up couples who:

1) Didn’t like each other when they first met?

2) Had no chemistry when they first met?

3) Didn’t find each other attractive when they first met?”

There’s a lot that happens between "hello" and "I do" that connects two people enough to want to end up together, don’t believe the hype from TV and the movies.

Chemistry does not equal compatibility, as you've probably had to learn the hard way a few times. It's a great feeling but it's not necessary to fall in love!

Compatibility is something you learn about one another over time and is usually the foundation of a much more meaningful union.

So, think twice before chucking that girl or guy’s numbers next time. First impressions can be misleading.

- AESHA ONLINE

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