Editor's Note

By Drum Digital
28 February 2014

Khosi pens a letter to parents.

Dear fellow parents,

Having been the editor of three magazines specialising in parenting content, I know that becoming a parent is a blessing. I also know it is the hardest job in the world.

So, while the act of being a parent is nothing short of a miracle, it is also the biggest job created since Adam and Eve. A child is a thirsty, dry sponge – they

absorb everything we expose them to or allow them to have.

That is our right and responsibility as parents: If you expose your precious sponge to dirty, pungent water or allow it to fall into a bucket filled with this kind of filth, they will secrete it, if not worse. Therefore, if you expose your child to unsavoury elements or leave them unsupervised, these things will certainly take hold.

Too often I hear people say they don’t have the time to be the parents they wish they could be. Their daily jobs take such a toll that by the time they get home, there really is no time to check on what the children got up to during the day.

Weekends are also tricky because those days are set aside for laundry, funerals and stokvel meetings. I disagree. As long as you have time to watch TV, attend funerals and have girls’ days out, then you have time to spend with your children.

Some parents know more about MJ from Generations than they do about their own children. They spend more time on WhatsApp with stokvel members discussing funerals of people who have died than they do with their own children who are still alive and need them. They don’t even bother checking their own child’s status update, and yet we all know what they’re up to via Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.

I hear you complain about “evil” forces that have crept in and taken over our children’s lives. “Satanism!” you cry. How is it possible that your child gets a tattoo, cuts herself repeatedly and chants in the night and yet you don’t know about it! Personally, I think it’s time we stopped blaming other kids, their parents and teachers, and own up.

These are our children. What happens to them, good or bad, is our doing. See our sad story on page 14 of two Soweto teenagers whose parents thought they were “normal” until they were found dead in a ditch. Spare a thought for the parents of the two boys accused of this horrific crime.

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