Ed's Note: Stop protecting abusive men

By Drum Digital
11 July 2014

It’s about time we stopped trying not to hurt the feelings of abusive men and speak out as soon as we see that there’s something wrong.

SOME OF us have found ourselves in this situation: You know something is wrong with your friend’s relationship or marriage but it is difficult to even say something to her about it, let alone help her.

So you wait and hope that maybe one day she’ll open up about it to you and you can help her.

But for 32-year-old Soweto mom Dolly Tshabalala it was too late. Her friends knew that she was in an abusive relationship; they were all  worried about her as they saw her trying to cover up the bruises with make-up.

Even the neighbours say they’d seen him beating her up, yet everyone says he was always a polite, “good guy”. Then she was found dead, stabbed in the flat they shared together.

Ladies, I think you’ll agree that it’s about time we stopped trying not to hurt the feelings of men like this and speak out as soon as we see that there’s something wrong. Too often we’re guilty of being silent co-conspirators, all in the name of politeness and not wanting to interfere.

Read more in DRUM – 17 July, 2014.

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