He wants a second wife

By Drum Digital
26 October 2015

I’m 27 and have been married for five years. My husband is away on business for six months of the year and is having an affair with another woman. Now he’s promised to marry her. What should I do?

Sis Dolly answers:

Your choices are quite simple: you can choose to stay in this relationship or choose to leave. I wish men would be upfront with their future wives before they get married and tell them that they are open to polygamy. At least that way a woman can go into a relationship informed, and able to make a choice before the fact and without being forced to make difficult decisions.

If you think you can live in a polygamous set-up, stay. You can tell your partner you don’t want him to marry this woman, but in my experience men who believe in polygamy don’t accept it when their wife says “no”.

I’d advise that you choose happiness. If you choose to stay, even though it’s difficult, make the effort to accept and live with it. Even if you’re disappointed, don’t choose resentment and anger: these aren’t emotions that support your future happiness.

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