Mistakes you are making as a parent

By Drum Digital
02 February 2014

If you don't want to ruin your child for life, take a look at these seven behaviors to avoid.

Every parent makes mistakes, even with the best intentions in mind. Some behaviors, however, are more crippling to your child’s future.

Insulating our children from risk. While it's only right to want to protect them, kids who don't experience normal failures or pain can develop phobias, high arrogance, and/or low self-esteem.

Rescuing kids too quickly, not letting them solve problems on their own. Over-praising. This can do more harm than good for children with low self-esteem, but the "everyone gets a trophy" mentality and ignoring poor behavior can also lead to children cheating, lying, and not being able to confront difficulties.

Spoiling them. When one does well in something, we feel it's unfair to praise and reward that one and not the other. This is unrealistic and misses an opportunity to enforce the point to our kids that success is dependent upon our own actions and good deeds."

Not sharing our own stories of struggle. Talking about your past mistakes and frustrations can help kids become "grittier."

Not modeling how we want kids to be. I.e., the "do as I say, not as I do" mistake.

Most of this is common sense parenting, but very often it's easy to fall into the trap of short-term parenting instead of thinking of the long term.

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