Ten steps to a peaceful relationship

By Drum Digital
13 August 2014

While conflict can never be completely avoided, here are some ideas on how to make your relationship a safe and peaceful space.

At times relationships become toxic environments long before we're able to pick that up, let alone fix the situation.

By the time we realise it, we're wound up in an unhealthy web of pain and most people choose to leave at this point.

While conflict can never be completely avoided, here are some ideas on how to make your relationship a safe and peaceful space.

1. Do what you need to do for you

You need to remain one of your most important priorities. Give to yourself what you want to receive from others first.

2. Give people the benefit of the doubt

Don't allow previous experiences to cloud your judgement of the present and don't allow negativity to ruin your chances at happiness.

3. Look at yourself for the problem first

This is something we all struggle with doing - being brutally honest with ourselves. We often attract what we are or what we fear most - which is it in your case? Work on it.

4. Be mindful of projecting

Closely linked to the above point, many times people try to chastise their loved ones over those things they dislike about themselves most. Are you this person at times?

5. Choose your battles

Is it always about you being right? Is this really more important to you than healthy communication and peace? Think about this whenever you feel a disagreement coming on.

6. Confront compassionately and clearly

The problem is your enemy, not your partner. This cliche is a useful way of remembering what to prioritise.

7. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable

This has to be one of the greatest hindrances to people finding true joy in intimacy. While your guard can protect you, it cam also be your biggest enemy. How much power are you giving your insecurities in the name of self-preservation?

8. Think before acting on emotion

Remember to be kind and mindful of how your words and actions linger long after you say "sorry".

9. Maintain boundaries

These should be agreed upon by both of you, to avoid future disagreements in this regard.

10. Enjoy their company more than their approval

Important and much like the first point. Be your first source of all the validity and love you require.

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