The 80/20 issue

By Drum Digital
30 September 2014

Did you know that comparison is one the most powerful relationship killers?

We've all heard of the 80/20 rule - partners believing  they're being denied certain aspects of satisfaction in their relationship and seeking it elsewhere.

Comparing your partner to anyone else is an issue, that goes without saying. But did you know that it's been said to be one of the most powerful-yet-silent of relationship killers?

Here are some examples of the worst kind of comparisons you and your partner can make in your relationship:

Other couples

Every relationship is different and has different dynamics that keep them functioning.  Sometimes we compare our relationships to other couples’ relationships without knowing their dynamics.

Single people

Sometimes we think the single grass is greener because we unfairly compare our lives to a "single life." Many leave chasing that life just to realize that it wasn't better, it was just different.

Each other

Just because your mate doesn't do things the way that YOU would do them doesn't mean your mate loves you wrong.

While it's okay to find things to strive towards, we have to learn what our own definitions of happy are. The grass is never greener on the other side.

- BLACK AND MARRIED WITH KIDS

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