Three lies about forgiveness

By Drum Digital
15 September 2014

There are many myths about forgiveness in relationships that we are rushed to buy into.

There are many myths about forgiveness in relationships that we are rushed to buy into.

These myths can actually do more harm than good.

Below are some of the most common:

Forgiveness is immediate

Forgiveness is a process that you have to go through instead of a statement you make once.  You may find yourself thinking you’ve moved past something and without warning, become angry all over again. You might have to look inside yourself and release something again that you already thought you had let go. Remember: Just because your spouse forgives you doesn’t mean that you won’t have to deal with the fallout from his or her pain.

Forgiveness means ignoring the problem

Forgiveness doesn’t absolve you of having to do the work. It’s the stepping stone for the work to begin.

Forgiveness always means reconciliation

There are a few situations that some couples cannot work through. You can still choose to forgive even if you have to walk away. Forgiveness is not always an invitation to allow someone back in right away, or ever. Forgiveness is a way to let go of anger without harbouring ill will that can end up hurting you in the long run.

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