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Getting back to dating

By admin
11 August 2014

Getting back into the dating game after a long term relationship or a marriage is hard but being lonely and spending the rest of your days feeling sorry for yourself is unbearable. Here are 5 tips on how to get back on the horse with as little drama as possible.

Getting back into the dating game after a long term relationship or a marriage is hard but being lonely and spending the rest of your days feeling sorry for yourself is unbearable. Here are 5 tips on how to get back on the horse with as little drama as possible.

1. Make sure you’re over your ex – You might have been the one who broke things off but if you’re still angry at him he’s taking up way too much space in your head and your probably aren’t really over him which could cause problems in your next relationship . You need to let go of any feelings you have towards him before you can truly move on so work through your anger, bitterness and the love you have for to make space for a fresh start and your new man.

2. Stop comparing your relationships – No relationship is ever the same; your partners will be different from your ex, your friend’s partners or any men in the relationships you see on TV. The sooner you understand that the sooner you learn to truely appreciate who you have and what you have with that person. Bringing your ex and the good times you shared or the fears he caused into your relationship is a fast forward to the end of your new relationship.

3. You are a product of your experiences – Very few people like being surprised in a relationship, it makes you look like a dishonest person. Don’t lie about who you are or what you’ve been through , although it isn”t good to throw a pitty party for yourself on your first date , share snippets of the life you wish to share with your date like your children , your job and your family life . These will give him an idea of who you are and what he can expect from you and whether or not he wants to be with you. It’s better to know sooner rather than later.

4. Keep your ex out of it – Don’t date men who remind you of your ex or men who are nothing like your ex, date men who like you that you like this should not be based on their comparison to your ex.

5. Don’t create a time line – We all know what we want from a relationship but we should still let nature takes its course , you might be pleasantly surprised by what you don’t have on your map .