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Seven steps of dealing with grief

By Faeza
27 January 2017

The hardest part for anyone is losing someone that they love.

With the recent passing of gospel star Lundi and jazz legend Thandi Klassen we realized how difficult it can be for some people to cope with grief and the pain of losing someone.

A large number of people tend to deal with grief in different ways, but most people usually to go through these seven stages while grieving.

Shock and denial: You will probably react to learning of the loss with numbed disbelief. You may deny the reality of the loss at some level, in order to avoid the pain.

Pain and Guilt: As the shock wears off, it is replaced with the suffering of unbelievable pain.

Anger and Bargaining: Frustration gives way to anger, and you may lash out and lay unwarranted blame for the death on someone else.

Depression, loneliness and reflection:  Just when your friends may think you should be getting on with your life, a long period of sad reflection will likely overtake you. This is a normal stage of grief, so do not be "talked out of it" by well-meaning outsiders.

The upward turn: As you start to adjust to life without your dear one, your life becomes a little calmer and more organized.

RECONSTRUCTION & WORKING THROUGH: As you become more functional, your mind starts working again, and you will find yourself seeking realistic solutions to problems posed by life without your loved one.

ACCEPTANCE & HOPE-

During this, the last of the seven stages in this grief model, you learn to accept and deal with the reality of your situation. Acceptance does not necessarily mean instant happiness.