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Steps to follow, when you don't know who the father of your child is

By Faeza
15 June 2017

Anonymous from Soweto writes:

I am a 28-year-old mother of a six-monthold baby. My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. He once cheated on me and out of anger, I cheated on him with my ex-boyfriend around the same time I fell pregnant. I told the two of them that I was pregnant

and they have both been paying child support. I am afraid because I do not know who the

father of my baby is. What should I do?

Move experts replies:

Family Life Centre’s senior social worker, Michele Hirsch, says, “These situations are likely to happen, but this does not mean you need to be proud, excited or happy about what

you have done. If you were involved with more than one partner during the time you fell pregnant, it may be really difficult to tell who the father of the baby is. Making them pay for child maintenance is a bit selfish. Make it a point that you take a paternity test in order to know for sure who the real father is. Unfortunately, you have to come clean to both of them in order for you to do the DNA test. The sooner this is done, the better. It might cause problems between you and your partner, but the truth always sets one free

and in this case it is a must.”