Follow us on:

The return of the ex part 1

By admin
19 November 2013

Khanyi Nkala wrote to Move! “I am 29-year-old lady of Denver and I recently went back to my love from the past. We had a date and he reminded me of how I used to treat him. I didn’t appreciate him, I used to shout at him for no reason and did not respect him. Is it a good idea to get back together, and how do I prepare for a successful relationship with an old lover?”

Is getting back with an ex a good idea?

Many people say that it is the worst mistake a person can ever make. There is a belief that ex-lovers should be kept in the past and that they are bad news.However, you have to do what feels right for you. A second chance to find love and romance can never be a terrible thing if you are wiser. Most people get it wrong by thinking past issues will resolve themselves or magically disappear. That will never happen unless you commit to improving your attitude and behaviour.

Avoid blaming each other for past mistakes. It’s a waste of precious time and concentrates on the negative rather than the positive. Rather ask yourself why you broke up in the first place and why you want to get back with him. You must carefully consider the reasons why you broke up. It seems to me that Khanyi has changed since the breakdown of her relationship by admitting her weaknesses. However, Khanyi’s ex must also be willing to change for the better.