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The thrill of pleasuring yourself

By Faeza
08 May 2017

MASTURBATION is when you touch yourself for sexual arousal and pleasure. A survey

conducted in 2014 in South Africa reported that 41 percent of women do it. ”It’s as natural as going to the bathroom or breathing air,” says Susan Kellog-Spad, a professor of human sexuality. It is also encouraged by books such as the Kama Sutra, a sex guide that dates back to 400BC, which has masturbation instructions.

MYTHS

Although it has been said that masturbating can be harmful, this is not true. Sex therapists say the only time it becomes harmful is when it is obsessive.

The following statements are misconceptions:

¦ It causes physical illnesses

¦ It causes mental illnesses

¦ It’s wrong to masturbate if you’re in a

relationship

¦ It limits orgasms

¦ It causes blindness

¦ It causes erectile dysfunction

SELF-EXPLORATION

Masturbation may be taboo in some religions, but some people, like sex therapist, Max Grunberg, believe that it’s important for women to explore their bodies to discover what turns them on. “Masturbation is valuable for gaining knowledge about the different parts of your body through touch, helping you become a sexually knowledgeable woman in order to communicate your sexual needs to your partner.”

THE HIGHS

When our bodies are experiencing sexual pleasure, they release the hormone oxytocin,

which has many benefits, including relieving stress and promoting calmness and sleep.

Another benefit is that when you know what turns you on, you will be able to let your partner know your pleasure zones.

MAKE IT HOT

Masturbating can be a solo act or you can do it with your partner. When doing it alone, you can introduce sexual fantasies to make it more interesting. You can also use toys such as a vibrator. If you want to try it with your partner, you can stimulate each other at the same time or he can watch you do it.

TOO MUCH OF A GOOD THING

Even though masturbating is not harmful, with some therapists noting that it is one of the few sexual acts that doesn’t risk the transmission of sexually transmitted infections and will not result in pregnancy, there is still a fine line between having a healthy appetite for self-love and when it becomes too much of a good thing. Dan Drake, a sex addiction therapist, says, “However often you masturbate, it’s not a problem until it starts affecting your life in negative ways.” He adds that you should know that your habit of masturbating is getting out of hand if it starts to harm your social life or job. This is when you start missing out on social commitments because you’d rather be at home touching yourself or you are always late for work or disappear from work to masturbate.