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What to do should your man leave you at the alter

By Faeza
03 May 2017

Anonymous writes:

I’m a 34-year-old mother of two and I’ve been with my fiancé for more than 11 years. We were supposed to get married last month. Everything – including the venue, attire and

catering – were prepared and paid for. On the day of the wedding, he did not to pitch up. I waited with guests at church but he never arrived. I was so furious and embarrassed. Everyone wanted answers but all I could do was cry. A few days later while I was dealing with the embarrassment of being left alone at the altar, he came back and asked for forgiveness. When I asked him why he did it, he said he’s not financially stable for marriage but he still loves me and wants to marry me one day. He hurt me, but I

still love him. Should I forgive him?

Move! experts responds:

Ann Rennie, a counselling social worker at The Family Life Centre in Joburg, says, “I am really sorry you had such a painful, embarrassing and disappointing experience. Now you will have to take responsibility for what happens next. I am curious that you would ask whether you should forgive him and take him back. If you don’t want any more of the hurt, then you should not allow him back into your life. Do you not believe that you deserve better treatment than you have received? What is it that makes you even consider forgiving such? It is time for you to have more self-respect and to demand a much higher standard of behaviour from someone who claims to love you.”