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A Man Cries Internally

11 October 2012, 08:23
A Man Cries Internally. Most men die in silence and drown in issues they cannot understand or challenges they cannot conquer, all because of egotism. The above statement is one of the major contributors to such malfunction. The problem with this behaviour is that it affects our spouses and then create unhealthy or dysfunctional relationships/marriages.

We are well aware that nobody is a mind reader and it’s difficult to read through silence. We make excuses or ignore questions from our loved ones when we are confronted, or even pretend to be victimised by multitude of words, instead of just opening up to them and take away the misery.

Regardless of how powerful or muscular you may be, you cannot conquer everything, there are certain things you’ll need to speak out about, especially to those around you. Some psychological issues are difficult to overcome and you don’t have to die in silence because you are a man, otherwise you’ll be drawn into isolation and selfishness whereby you just find ways to make excuses not to function in marital/relational roles. Sometimes we even tend to blame the feminine for the malfunctioning of our relationships whereas we know exactly what causes her to behave the way she does. She has to give you stress because you are giving her one, she is gifted verbally and so shall she use that to her advantage just to provoke a conversation out of you.

Just so you know, even strong, wise and matured men struggle in certain things and it helps to talk. Being a man doesn’t mean I will know or handle everything well, some challenges will bring us to our knees and we need someone to help us up, some needs prayer but some needs to be vented out.

Unfortunately some men remain down because they are scared to speak out or cry for help. If you cannot speak to the woman in your life (which shouldn’t be), find someone to speak to and to relay the message. If you need to be understood by the woman in your life, open up to her so that she can either support you or seek help on your behalf. You keep quiet you die in silence, you open up you stand a better chance of relieving the stress and then function well in every area of your life.

We need to stop making excuses and start taking responsibility for the psychological issues that are negatively affecting our relationships. Cry out if you have to, let your spouse know what brings you to your knees so that she can avoid stressing and pushing you away in her attempt to connect with you. Why do you have to be vulnerable to another man and not do the same to your woman?

Yes, we may cry internally but our behaviour will definitely prove how vulnerable we are. So, stop suffocating and bloating yourself with your own tears whilst God has blessed you with a helper compatible to you. And all the men say…
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