Homophobia in SA
not suitable for readers under the age of 18
(Because religion is politics is sex)
Let’s begin with an understanding of male rape.
Every tribe, every society, ever group, wants to be unbreachable, unrapable and impenetrable. It's “city walls” must be able to protect it from being conquered from without by outsiders.
Being a machine of conquest, defense and sovereignty, each civilization values the strength of its men. Men are thus competitive and unconquerable – each one is a microcosm of what every society wants to be. Unrapable. Impenetrable. Their “walls” always able to protect them from being conquered from outside.
This is one of the reasons that male anal sex is the taboo that it is: like men and cities are expected to be, the anus is fortified by a network of highly resistant rings of muscle. It is, or is supposed to be, unrapable, impenetrable, unconquerable, just like the cities whose dignities the men protect. So when an invader does breach that fort, it brings shame and brutal pain to the victim.
But here is where the shame reaches its scalding climax, and some rapists arrange for the rape to happen in such a way that this is discovered: a few inches into the anus lies a walnut-shaped gland that is undergirded by a sensitive network of nerve cells. Manipulated correctly, this prostate gland and its network of cells is able to deliver what has been described as “earth-shattering” orgasms. During male rape, that unstoppable orgasm following that brutal pain of being conquered is the ultimate humiliation.
It exposes a great perversion in the victim’s masculinity; the ability to respond, using a man’s faculties, to the penetration that only women could enjoy. It exposes a perversion that makes him “wish” to be treated like a woman, to be “conquered.”
This in turn says that this man who would orgasm during rape intrinsically devalues all that his masculinity is supposed to protect. He would exchange it all in a heartbeat for the degrading pleasure of being conquered and of having all that depends on him conquered simultaneously. His wives, children, parents, heritage, kingdom, family, legacy and power mean nothing more to him than the 30 pieces of silver he’d sell for an opportunity to ejaculate as he is being conquered.
Rape isn’t about sex, or pain in the instances that it’s brutal; oh, no, it’s about power and shame. If a rapist can catch out the “treachery” in his victim by making the body respond as though aroused, then the rapist has undone her – or him – because the rapist has shown that on an anatomical, visceral level, the victim “fails” to be loyal to the spouses, legacies, beliefs and truths he was entrusted with. He fails as a man, and fails at the point just behind the uncontrollable manifestation of his arousal that lies in the bare open. Rape is the supreme expression of power over the will of the victim, and by the instantiation of that power just that once, the rapist may “blackmail” his victim forever whether they ever meet again or not.
Male rape rips a terrifying scar into the colonized society against which it perpetrated because it “exposes” the treachery of the abused; through the conquered man, male rape sends a message to the society that it is built on moral decadence and nothing foundationally real. The raped male body, once a proud microcosm of what the society was, now becomes the twice-fallen canvas on which the rapist broadcasts a degrading picture of that society to itself. The victim is hated both by the one who has taken his manhood away and by the community that has been shamed by his weakness. “You are slaves because your men want to be owned like women.”
Every society at some point thus made the discovery that male homosexuality, or a man’s state of being attracted to beings who have a penetrative penis as opposed to those who have a penetrable vagina, is basically being attracted to and giving sexual allegiance to persons with the phallic power to conquer, as opposed to being attracted to female persons who are meant to be conquered. It is a dangerous thing to desire copulation with the conqueror rather than the conquerable.
Homosexuality is thus seen as the cancer of masculinity by which masculinity perversely abdicates and disrobes itself while taking enormous pleasure in the act: same-sex attraction is the ultimate death-wish beating in the anatomy of men everywhere. In the arms of another man is a terrifying place for men to be in because they can be potentially reduced to “women” by a desire within themselves; what does that say about the community the men represent? That it can be reduced to the slave of another community. Homosexuality is therefore treason, these civilizations figured.
Society cannot tolerate the thought that the key to its being betrayed literally exists in its men and can possibly be “learned” in the relationships between men. It takes one man to introduce, in more ways than one, this pleasurable treason to another. Society therefore scales great, great, great and unthinkable lengths to make sure that its men are never “primed” for that ultimate betrayal. It also goes to great, great lengths to make sure that its men choose power over anything else including tenderness with fellow men.
Its men are thus rewarded for choosing to be powerful men. When they choose to be anything else, disapproval rains down on them.
Society covered the shame of where the male orgasm originates by prescribing exclusively what I describe as the Socially Respectable Male Orgasm. This orgasm comes from the front of men as though he were involved in battle; the Socially Respectable Orgasm comes from a position of “conquest.” It is also only allowed to happen in relationship with. Any man who dares say that it isn’t as pleasurable as a direct assault on his prostate, or that she isn’t an equal match as are men, or isn’t as “tight” or rambunctious as a man, has betrayed masculinity by choosing pure sensuousness over rightful masculine conquest over females, and all that society derives from such masculine conquest – basically, men have to choose the Socially Respectable, Socially Responsible, Socially Reasonable Orgasm; any other kind is treason.
Also, society figured that heterosexual copulation was the less shameful and more reasonable of two evils; same-sex coupling between men was monstrous; same-sex coupling between women was still punishable by death but a little more trivial than male homosexuality. A spear could go into its rightful conquerable target, yes. If the targets decided to go and rub off of each other – disturbing, but not worth lifting stones for. But the moment uplifted spears get within aiming distance of one another – well, that taboo is unthinkable. Society thus exposed its sexual views and double-standards through its laws.
Society breeds and normalizes its tribalistic principles into its boys until they’re welded into the consciousness of one generation after another and are confused with the essence of masculinity. Masculinity thus becomes heteropatriarchy.
The Sissy Boy Syndrome
By being “womanly,” the effeminate boy reveals and manifests in the open what society once tried to hide in the dark. He doesn’t have to experience and re-experience anal rape and orgasm to become a woman-man who is the breathing betrayal of his community; he’s already reached that level without the scandalous journey there. How much worse would the crime be, then, if he did come into contact with another man whether to fuck him or be fucked by him? “If they do these things to the green tree, what will be done in the dry?”
It is a terrible thing for a Zulu man to have a gay son, for in having one, he spawns the treacherous, cursed abomination that would undo society in a heartbeat. It is a sordid blight against the integrity of his manhood, his gene pool and his ancestor’s decorum. He has to shame his son into being straight even if the shaming is subtle. That gay son is everything that subverts society because, anatomically charged with the duty of upholding his people’s legacy, he sexually betrays them by being born ready to betray them.
Based on all these observations, we can conclude that society had no choice but to be heteropatriarchal, and to equate masculinity with enforcing heteropatriarchy.
The conglomeration of heteropatriarchal entities such as the South African government with the ANC on the pinnacle, the various indigenous royalties and nobilities, the indigenous monarchies, and even the black male presidencies of neighboring countries, all form a formidable superstructure I will hence refer to as “The Powers.”
Responsible for the persecution of LGBT people across Africa, they are heteropatriarchy manifest even as they radiate benevolence. In President Jacob’s Zuma’s words, “When I was growing up, an ungqingili (a rude Zulu word for homosexual) would not have stood in front of me. I would have knocked him out.” He has since apologized for this comment but not everyone believes the apology was sincere. Zimbabwean President Robert Mugabe has threatened to behead homosexuals. One country after another has taken a violent stance against the bare existence of LGBT people.
If there are or gay people or women in these heteropatriarchal structures, they’re there either out of greed because they’ve gotten to a place where they can use the System for their own ends, or they’re there because they legitimately want to make a good difference and have worked their way in, working thrice as hard as anyone else. Either way, the System has to tolerate their presence there because the neo-democratic Constitution would have them there. In fact, the System can use them as a front. “Look at us. So tolerant. So Constitutional.” But the System is heteropatriarchal.
The Constitution is antithetical to the Culture because where the Constitution is essentially about equality, the Culture is defined by a worldview in which men are people and women are objects – though the Powers pretend to be operating behind the neo-democratic Constitution which describes women as people. The Constitution, if actually followed instead of the Culture, would immediately divest the Powers of their power over the women as objects.
The male gaze and the male
According to the Culture, men are at the top of the pecking order.
They are unrapable and nobody will report it when they have been raped. They cannot be looked at – they are the source of the male gaze and not its object. As an essay by Rebecca Mao describes, the male gaze is how they mark their territory and their property; it has no counterpart because they cannot be anybody’s territory or property: they are persons, not objects. They have to be unconquerable, unbuyable persons because society needs them to be such. Their men have to be impervious to homosexual temptation, which is the temptation to betray the masculinity that is the heteropatriarchal pillar of society.
They are not to be regarded as aesthetically beautiful because to do so is to begin objectifying them as things, like women, that can be evaluated like the bodies of slaves at a slave trade market; like displayed bodies that can be colonized, owned and raped. Being evaluated in terms of beauty also emasculates and disempowers them because it sets them in competition with one another – and with women, who then become their equals – in competition to be the objects of gazes; to be voluntarily objectified. To voluntarily abdicate manhood.
Men are not to be pretty or homosexuals or both because by being such, they see-saw the balance of sexual power and dignity between men and women – they also confuse other men sexually by attracting them to men who are pretty or homosexual or both – which is “against nature” because it immediately sets the walls of society trembling.
We all instinctively know, though, that living in a place where homosexuality is not allowed is always a bad idea. Not only is it be less fun and less colourful, but there will always be some sort of corruption and tyranny happening there.
Though they are not the same throughout, lesbian, gay, g0y, grero, CR warriors, the movement to reclaim natural manhood, bisexual and transgendered people are, in their various ways, a thorn in the System’s side. They’re the lump the anaconda cannot swallow, the tick the dog cannot shake, the x the algebraist cannot solve. The world tells itself that they’re a minority (the most convenient lie that was ever told) even though they’re dominating the news’ headlines more and more lately.
If men can be “objectified” as these groups reveal that they can be, then, in principle, as homophobia fears, another would do with any man as one wishes just as men have been doing with women in the enforcement of heteropatriarchy. The existence of LGBT persons threatens the autonomy and power-base of every heteropatriarchal man. The Powers thus cannot – cannot – cope with ideas like male rape or homosexuality though the Constitution they hide behind caters for such situations; such ideas threaten to weaken the culture and shatter their power.
“Thabo Mbeki was a great president,” my father said. “He just made one big mistake.” “What was that?” I asked. “Accommodating the gays the way he did,” Dad replied. “He shouldn’t have given them so many rights.”
“I don’t see how he had a choice,” I remarked. “He was bound to do so by the Constitution.”
“I know that,” Dad said nonchalantly. “But it goes against culture.”
See? The Powers get to have all the approval that comes with signing off a democratic Constitution while maintaining their power base by enforcing an unconstitutional Culture, which the people keep voting for again and again.
The people know that though the Powers have had to sign off a democratic Constitution, they’ll act according to what’s culturally expected. With every election, black people vote their culture, tribe and tribal representative into office again and again in order to assert the superiority of their own tribe over every other – the Zulus over the Xhosas and so forth, thus vindicating “our” claim to superiority as a nation.
They assert their unrapability.
Black people aren’t idiots: they know what they’re getting from their government. They’re getting the heteropatriarchal culture they identify with. They’re getting tribalism and nationalism.
The government could theoretically play the Zulus off against the Xhosas by stealing from the Xhosas to give to the Zulus; the Zulus wouldn’t be bothered with the principle of theft as much as they’d be enamored with the display of Zulu superiority as the “Chosen Nation.” Never mind something like Black Economic Empowerment or affirmative action which plays the whites off against the blacks and divides the nation so that it may remain conquered.
The voting majority will not vote according to an impartial Constitutional ideal though they’ll sometimes give themselves the impression that they do; they will vote according to the loyalties dictated by the Cultural Value System which looks at having one of “our” people in power and authority. These tribal battles moved from the hills and valleys to the voting booths. This, even if “we” do not actually benefit from having one of “our” people in power.
By playing to all the sides and playing all sides against one another, the Powers get to have their cake and eat it. We are their cake, and we are being eaten.
The Culture is threatened by actual manifestations of the Constitution’s rulings because while the Constitution is about the equality of all persons, the Culture is about their inequality. We are a country governed by and buying into an inherently unequal Cultural Value System – one that places chiefs and men at the top, women and children at the bottom as a last priority, and the gays and other gender subversives outside. This is the triune Godhead of the voting majority: the unholy trinity of patriarchy, heteronormality and tribalism.
How South Africans vote from a gay man’s perspective
If the President should embezzle R200 million and make further plans to embezzle another R900 million, the Culture supports that because the Man on top of its Hierarchy gets everything even if it’s at the expense of people at the bottom of the Hierarchy. Never mind the ones outside; they shall fend for themselves. Tribalism 101 demands that the king looks and lives like a king so that whichever of our enemy sees him, they see an emblem of the tribe’s strength and unrapability. Multiply this by seven tribal kings living off taxpayers’ money and you do the math. Of course they’ll never be cut from living off of the taxpayer’s money because everyone is so enamored with the culture and heritage they represent.
And people want the Culture to keep siphoning money from the economy. If the government is corrupt, it’s because the Culture that keeps voting it into place is tribalistic. The corruption of the government is symbiotically dependent on the corruption of its voters’ priorities. It’s not about preserving heritages; it’s about legitimizing prejudices and tribalism.
The ethnicity of the President is a matter of great importance in every stream of the Cultural Value System. The Zulus care more for having a Zulu president who validates Zulu, patriarchal culture that objectifies women and multiplies wives than they care to have a president who actually cares for equality. For them, heteropatriarchy is the essence of morality. The word “Zulu” means “heavenly people.” This is their God – patriarchal, heteronormal and tribal; these are his attributes and the basis of the morality he has written into his people’s hearts. Because the Zulu have confused their own morality (the good of our group) with ultimate morality, they can tolerate and enable corruption.
When people don’t make fairness the first priority when they vote, the government they choose won’t make it its first priority either. If people’s first priority is preserving the Cultural Value System as well heteropatriarchy, then the first priority of the government they vote into power will also be preserving power and hierarchy. It won’t be serving people. Feeling threatened by actual democracy, the voting majority will keep voting a System into place that protects their heteropatriarchal Cultural priorities.
But the heteropatriarchal cultural prerogatives that the people are voting into power are exactly the heteropatriarchal cultural prerogatives that allow the government to steal from its people. The man on top takes it all, remember?
The Powers maintain their power by promising the heteropatriarchalized society that it will protect its heteropatriarchal cultural priorities so long as society keeps the Powers in power. How is this promise articulated? Through Presidents getting away with rape and polygamy; through Presidents getting away with declaring themselves president for life and taking land, wealth and possessions from “the other” who thereafter is powerless to rape “us.” The Presidents promise to keep the heteropatriarchal Cultural priorities through the persecution and disparaging of gender-subversive gay and lesbian persons who’d unbalance this power.
South African voters prevent getting raped by the man – or the tribe – next door by keeping a rapist in the house. The problem with keeping a tyrannical rapist in your own house in order to prevent being raped by the tribe or the man next door, is that you’re keeping a rapist in the house. And he will rape you.
The mechanism that these Powers use to guarantee their power and the Cultural Value System that their people want, is taking it all. Taking it all supposedly for the good of the group but truly for those in the group’s innermost circle, is not something distinct from the heteropatriarchy: it is the unchanging essence of heteropatriarchy. It is rape. The Government will tax you till Kingdom come, but you won’t see a single well-maintained road running for more than a kilometer. Being in awe of how the President is so Zulu and respects our cultures, we’ll let him so that he’ll have more power to enforce our culture.
Therefore, they will take it all. And they will never stop. They cannot stop. They are black holes.
Society is happier to have those cultural value systems in place than to have fairness because society feels morally superior and asserts its unrapability. The choice of Cultural Value Systems over fairness means that fairness will always be the first to be sacrificed in any situation. By the same prerogatives that the Powers exercise over the lesser-than, it subjugates and exploits its voters. We do not have a government in service; we have a government in power. We keep choosing a government of power that is served by, takes from and consumes its people. For that is what heteropatriarchy with its sidekick tribalism dictates, and we collectively keep choosing heteropatriarchy because it protects our tribalistic cultural value systems. If we chose a government that served its people, that choice would subvert gender as the voting majority understands it. A government that doesn’t rape, kill and plunder is not “masculine”
because it has, by serving its people, subverted gender roles as they are understood by the voting majority.
The voting majority wants to be ravaged, broken and eaten up. They display the very shame they point out in the homosexuals. They voting majority wants to be fucked by its government, and is willing to throw away its right to decent service so that it can be fucked by its government just as the stereotyped homosexual is willing to throw away everything that is represented by his masculinity in order to be fucked. The black voting majority is thus the thing it feared becoming, and is experiencing the thing it feared experiencing. Not wanting to be raped by the tribe next door, the people put in power the biggest set of rapists that they could find for the protection of their own tribes. The issue with preventing being raped by the tribe next door by having a rapist as your leader, is that you’ll get raped. People thus precipitated the very rape that they were avoiding.
The voting majority is homophobic. Depict two men killing each other on television, and no one makes a sound. Depict two men kissing each other, and the SABC will get complaints for weeks afterwards. South Africa, your priorities as a nation have exposed and unmasked you.
When men begin killing men, the sight of it demonstrates power; it is something that society can control and predict. When men begin kissing men, the sight teaches the boys within its society the very susceptibility required to have that terrifying, humiliating, degrading scar of male rape ripped into the body of society. By choosing to prepare for war, society has taken away what was needed to prepare for peace.
“Equal rights,” they said. “Grace,” they promised. “Freedom,” they declared. “A New Covenant,” they stated. “The Freedom Charter,” they called it. “The Constitution,” they affirmed. “Perfect Law of Liberty,” they sang. But they did not mean it. In their hearts, the people just wanted to assert their unrapability. Tribalism 101.
And now look where we are: the System is a joke, the economy is the fractured, skeletal remains of a feeding frenzy by corrupt officials, the Culture is a prison, investors and tourists are scared to do business with us, the education system mass-produces mediocrity, the voting majority is a horde of lemmings, and we’re all the System’s bitches.
We have become and precipitated exactly what we were avoiding.
(I’ve written the theological side of this essay in http://galatians3verse28.wordpress.com – it is over 250 pages long because it discusses the bible; please do not attempt to read in one sitting. It is sub-divided)
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