If there had to be the sort of hype about every single extra-marital affair like this CHAOS surrounding Kirsten Stewart… Nobody would ever be able to concentrate on anything other than everybody else’s sex lives. People get involved in personal intimate relationships with the person of their choice. At whatever age. Nowadays it can be anything from 8 to 90 years old. In the beginning things are beautifully romantic. He can’t get enough of you. You can’t stop going on about just how breath-takingly awesome he is. But unfortunately this Honeymoon Phase comes to a silent fizzle after a while. How long it lasts depends on the couple involved and the effort they put into their relationship. Keeping it fresh, exciting and sexy takes work from both sides. The phrase “it takes two to tango” really has some truth to it!!
Why we as women cheat…
There are many psychological theories relating to cheating female partners/spouses/girlfriends. The main thing they all have in common is the complaint something is missing from the relationship they are committed to. Either something emotional – not enough attention being given to her emotional needs. Or it can be physical in the case of most of the women who just did it for the sex and carnal pleasures their partner no longer provides. The most shocking reason the fairer sex may go astray is LONELINESS. You can live with someone every hour of every day, even sleep next to them…and still feel like you are all by your lonesome. Whereas men 9 out of 10 times stray due to their partner’s lack of interest in satisfying his physical needs. Not because of her becoming less attractive as most women fear. In the beginning you enjoyed rolling in the hay – now he has to keep his fingers crossed you will allow him to touch you. He has just as much desire for you as that first time. remember that. When the “spark” disappears between two people where there was once a very strong chemistry – warning lights should flash.
My experience has opened my eyes…
Now I am no Psychologist or Psychiatrist or any other form of head doctor. Let me explain why I am sympathetic to Ms Stewart’s and the rest of the Scarlet-Letter-wearers’ plight. During my school years I never showed any interest in having a boyfriend like all the girls around me were bragging about. I never once went out to night clubs. Didn’t even have a drink at a braai or a party. Sounds boring as all hell. But my marks were the top priority and my dedication and “klooster-koek” attitude paid off. Average right through was in the high 80’s and 90’s. Then came Gr 11 and my first serious boyfriend. He was the spitting image of what I thought was my dream guy…older than me, intelligent, dark hair, light eyes and a beautiful smile. I fell hard and fast. After about 3 months we felt the time was right to take the plunge and express the love physically…I was his first. But he was not mine. My innocence was stolen by a drunken rapist a few years earlier, but that’s another story! We floated along on our happy in love cloud through my matric year. After about a year of bliss, the rose coloured petals began to fall from my loved-up teenage eyes. At the Matric Farewell, I wore a custom design dress, the hair was done and my 1.77m tall frame was balanced on heels. What was supposed to be the greatest night of my High School career ended roughly 2 hours after I had zipped up my gown. We listened to the speeches. We ate some delicious buffet food. And when I wanted to go dance and I was told “You will not dance with anybody else and I don’t dance” my cell phone was already in my hand to organise a lift home. Downhill from that moment I tell you. Wasn’t allowed to see my parents, cos they would allow me to see other guys behind his back. Couldn’t see my friends, cos they had brothers. You get the idea. So after a few months of this “policing” by him I withdrew completely. I became a shadow of my bubbly self. A living breathing sex toy. I felt like I was worthless unless I opened my legs to him. He never kissed or hugged me. He used me when he wished and I was too naïve to stop him. My messed up mind decided to force him to leave me by doing what he was so desperately trying to stop me from doing. The one night that I was allowed “out” to a sleep over at my best friend’s house, her brother picked up I was upset and miserable. He talked to me like he cared. We got a bit too friendly and things got out of hand, but we didn’t sleep together…It was enough for my boyfriend to drop me like a hot potato. Two days later he begged me back.
Do not judge…
Unless you are a part of the intricate dynamics between two people who are in a relationship…keep your yap shut. The paparazzi who keep documenting every bloody move Stewart and Pattinson make are making things worse. She did something wrong. She is not the only HOME WRECKER you blooming idiots. The married man who also had an equal part in the “affair” where they didn’t even have sex doesn’t get mentioned. Did anybody ask WHY she did it? Her relationship with Robby might not have been so fantasy-filled as most fans think....
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