Unfortunately I can’t say I was one of the lucky ones that got a great daddy that I could respect and look up to but I am also not going to use this opportunity to write about myself, however I will use my personal experience as a reference.
My article today is simply to give point to the fact that becoming a father should mean more to a guy than just genetics.
Fathers should be men who create a child in love and enjoy a lifetime of happiness being a father. Unfortunately on the other end of the spectrum there are men that enjoy the few minutes it takes to make the baby and then move on to living a selfish life where his needs and wants come first.
The way I see it, if you did not really want to be a father then why didn’t you use protection or find another way to satisfy yourself. At the end of the day it isn’t the child’s fault that you weren’t careful or that it was an accident. (Just as an added point, it’s not the nicest thing in the world for a child to hear that they were an accident)
Being a mother myself, one of the first things that I realised and one of the first things that literally scared the hell out of me was the fact that my husband and I are a huge impact on what our child learns and who she will be one day, the values she will have or won’t have and how she will view the world and handle it. That’s a big responsibility and if you are not up for it then maybe you should think about that before you have a child.
It was always amazing to me that you have to be a certain age to drink; you have to get a licence before you can drive a car and you have to study before you can get a degree, but anyone at any age with any financial situation and mental state is allowed to have children no questions asked.
A child is one of the most precious things you can receive in your life and is one of the hardest jobs you will ever have but also the most rewarding with no equal – Love is the ultimate salary. They are the future and how you bring them up will usually have a huge deciding factor in the type of person they become later in life.
I am really not here to tell parents how to raise their children, all that I am trying to achieve is to educate some of the parents that forget that their child is not just a possession and that they are little human beings that have personalities and feelings and deserve to be treated as such.
I am one of the lucky few that with the right help and support has managed to turn their life around from the throes of a very unhappy childhood caused by a father who simply cared more about himself than anyone else, but too many of the poor children that have been through similar experiences might not be able to do it and they live in the world of darkness that I once lived in, stuck in cycle that seems endless.
So all I am asking is please think before you become a parent or just at least remember when you are bringing a life into the world that they are amazing little beings and being a father to them is one of the most important things in their life, it means a lot more than you think to that child or children.
And so on a lighter note I would like to end this off with a quote from Philip Whitmore Snr - Any fool can be a Father, but it takes a real man to be a Daddy!!
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