Yes parents you are to blame. The spate of child related crimes and drug use made me think. The school holidays are over and I am thankful the brats are back at school. Doing shopping in the Malls, Supermarkets and Department Stores drove me crazy! Screaming, demanding, sullen brats getting under peoples feet while the parents strolled around oblivious to their ill bred kids! Or are they oblivious? Maybe they disassociated themselves from their offspring and left the little terrors to inflict their evilness on you and me? Have you ever had a supermarket trolley almost run you over? I did. I had to cling to a shelf as the terrors sped past. I saved myself from the trolley but could not stop the baked beans from falling on my head! I know – I did laugh after…..
It’s no laughing matter and it is especially sad when two kids not older than 8 or 9 were sticking their tongues out and making rude gestures at the Black lady standing behind them in a supermarket queue. They hid behind their mother who yakked nonstop with a friend. The Black lady looked everywhere else but at the brats. I looked at them and said “that’s not nice”. That elicited a glare from yakky lady! No reprimand for the brats, no apology to the lady or even a bit of embarrassment - rather than being protective of her rude kids she should have slapped them!
It’s no laughing matter. And now these brats have killed a dog! They threw fireworks over a wall. The dog grabbed it and was badly injured and it had to be put down! Where were the parents? How did the kids get the fireworks? I recall an age restriction was set when the bylaws on fireworks were approved. What price should these kids pay? And kids committing murder? 12 year olds? And even today, 16 and 18 year olds charged for murder. How should they be sentenced for their crimes? Community service? Or will their parents shrug it off as “children being children”
Before anyone says “Maybe she doesn’t have kids”, I do. I believed in discipline. My mother was a single parent with 5 kids. No backchat was allowed. Respect was paramount. We were taught that respect was earned. She taught us to be satisfied with what we had and to appreciate what we had! Poor but happy was what we were. My mother also constantly reminded us that there were children that had less than we did. We turned out to be kids my mother was proud of – she died a happy woman!
I married and have 2 kids. I was determined to raise them with good manners, a good demeanour and no tantrums! I could walk into a toy store without any drama. I believed in a slap where and when it was needed! Strict discipline was used in my home. I love my children with a passion. And the best thing I did for them was to raise them to be the most well adjusted young adults in the world! Educated, respectable, they don’t drink or smoke and yes they are completely normal and love me unconditionally! Today we laugh at the discipline they received. They will raise good kids too, I know they will.
The disappearance of discipline from schools and homes is the root cause of children losing their respect and not being brought up to respect fundamental values. The law makers don’t raise our kids, we do. They sit in their ivory towers and churn out laws that don’t make sense half the time. Parents have to raise their kids as they see fit. Materialism practiced by parents, is copied by their kids. Kids are left to their own devices. They are taught that want is better than need. Too much money allows them to become victims of drug lords. Then parents cry and wail because now their young terrors have become drug addicts! Been to the movies on weekend nights? I rest my case………
I blame the Government as well. Too many leniency's are allowed. 12 year olds will legally be able to have sex with each other now! Whats to stop kids from telling lies about their ages – this is one law that will be open to abuse. 16 and 18 year old boys are waiting to pounce on vulnerable girls. I mentioned movies on weekends? Well here it is ” free for all”. So am I wrong in chastising parents? And if kids are old enough to have sex as adults its time they were treated like adults!
Child Phsycologists have it wrong – discipline is not abuse! There are people who may take it too far, but even now with restrictions on discipline, child abuse is still happening. My point is – when do the kids have to be liable for what they do? Child abuse is when adults abuse kids verbally and physically. What about abuse from kids? Adult abuse? When kids torment adults with behavior that is not acceptable. Don’t abuse your children, but will a little discipline be so bad? There are different forms of discipline. You decide what works for you and your children.
Discipline must be brought back. And parents need to be told that anyone can be a parent but not every person can be a good parent. As much as you are liable to feed, clothe and house your child, you are also liable to integrate your child into society. Let him or her be an asset to you and society. Good, well mannered children are a reflection on their parents. They grow up to be good adults which then creates good societies and communities, which in turn creates a pleasant place for everyone – pipe dreams? I don’t think so, give it a try – teach your kids to be good human beings – you may learn a thing or two yourself!
And to the parents who raise their kids with good qualities? I commend you - you are a worthy parent.......