Ok, so on the back of “zion’s” article (august 8th 2012) on corporal punishment, I as a 27 year old guy, would like to throw my hat in the ring on this one. As I am currently staying in Dubai (please, no "you left the country,so you have no say"), I see the evidence of slack, knuckle dragging parenting on a daily basis, and at its worst. This also applies to back home in S.A. Now not being a parent myself, I can still recognize when a parent has obviously raised their kids with the same determination as when one vacuums a carpet. With kids running around like hounds on a fox hunt, screaming like banshees and generally doing whatever they want, and the worst…the parents just stand there, forcefully oblivious, and when you do make scornful eye contact, they give you a look as if to say “how dare you judge my parenting!?”. Give me a break…
These kids today who threaten their parents with “if you touch me ill tell on you” need to be taken back in time and try that with the parents of just 10 years ago, our parents,, especially in South Africa…imagine a young boy saying that to his father, he wouldn’t make it to the end of that sentence.
All this new-age B.S these days of these idiots telling soon-to-be as well as current parents to not hit your child, is the most disturbing load of nonsense since the idea of another season of idols. These “ professionals” tell you guys (parents) to come down to the child’s level, negotiate rather than instill fear… (Insert rolling of the eyes). What moronic advice is this? When I was young, you got hard - worded warnings, 3 of them, at most. Then if you were brave, or rather stupid enough to push the limits of your father’s patience, you got reprimanded with one hell of a hiding. End of story. Afterwards, after the tears and the whole usual moping session, my dad would sit me down and explain why I received a hiding and ASK me why I think I received a hiding. Most of the time, even at a young age, I knew why, I knew what I was doing was wrong, and thus knew what the consequences would be. And in a very short period of time, knew not to do the things that I knew would end up with me hopping around with Adidas stripes down my backside. Best of all, looking back, I respect my dad more than ever for doing what he did.
This was also the case in high school, where at that age, us boys I suppose, test the limits yet again, either out of young bravado, hormones and a good helping of stupidity, and the same thing happened. I got ‘3 of the best” on a few occasions, and it was quite a funny experience to the male teachers and the “receivers” alike, not in the sense of that it didn’t make a difference in our attitude, but rather that we happily accepted the consequences of our actions, and learned from it.
Most of us, my age and older, that were brought up living in respectful fear of physical discipline, turned out to be normal upstanding citizens. We don’t feel like we were “abused”, like many of these new-age idiots claim is the reason kids should not be physically disciplined. It grinds me when I see parents being threatened by their kids who are so out of control that they should be medicated, rather than actually be parents. There is a stark difference between a child with valid A.D.D and a child that is a menace to society because his parents are to pathetic to actually let the child know who is in charge in the household.
So, regardless of what the stupid law says about physical discipline, my kids will also be on the receiving end of a well deserved hiding if they step out of line to the point of deserving one. They are only going to be better mannered and respectful kids because of it. And to all you limp-wristed parents out there that have all kinds of excuses as to why you cant physically discipline your kids, get real. Your kids are the ones who ruin restaurants for the rest of us. Ruin going to the mall, I can go on. If it wasn’t highly illegal and socially frowned upon, I would happily discipline your kids for you when they run me over while I’m walking, or scream at the top of their lungs while I’m trying to have a nice dinner out. The only excuse you could have as to not reprimand your kids physically are that they are either mentally or physically disabled. Other than that, please spare society your blatant lack of, or purposeful y useless parenting skills. We shouldn’t be punished for your lack of parenting, and worse, nor should we as a society pay for it later when your kids grow up to be manipulating sociopaths or criminals.
I also want to state that not being a parent myself, I can’t begin to imagine the hard work that it takes, the commitment, the hours and the endless patience. So to the parents out there who I have seen with the most well behaved children ever, I applaud you and say that you are a dying breed. It doesn’t seem like a big deal to you, but trust me, everyone in the restaurant is thanking you in their head and also think you should be commended, as well as your kids. Good on you all.