In as much as we would like to be rid of men, saying we as women are independent, we really do not need men; have you ever noticed how much control they have over our lives as women. It all begins with the man we have first in our lives, the male figure that determines how we view the whole male species, our fathers.
He is the best man in our lives and can either make or break us as individuals. Ever heard of the saying that we marry our fathers? In a way we do, the way he treats us, inevitably affects the way we view them in their totality. Imagine a girl that has been treated like a princess, a daddy's little girl; the apple of his eye, the man she marries eventually will have the same qualities that daddy has. he will be caring and loving just like daddy. A good father sets out a good example of how a man should treat a woman, through the way he treats her mother and herself.
But not all men can be sweet and caring toward their daughters and women; there are some who are totally violent, disrespectful, cruel and downright rutless and they dont even realise that they scar the children especially the girl child. it is quite daunting when you look at it, she grows up reckoning it is okay to be treated badly. It is their destiny to be miserable and unhappy because of the way they are raised. The basic assumption would be, daddy did that to mommy and it was okay therefore that's the way it should be. A parent is a role model for a child especially the father. A boy assumes that bashing and battering is the only way to treat a woman, with disrespect and violence that is the only way to earn their respect; a girl assumes being beaten is the only way to show he loves me and if he doesn't he is considered weak.
Have you ever thought of the effects and ideologies that you are planting to your child right now? What values are you instilling to your children everyday in the manner in which you talk to them? In the way in which you treat the person next to you? remember you are building a nation of tomorrow, what values do they carry from you, what morals do you think the next generation will have?
It begins with you at home, it begins with the way you value yourself as a parent, as a father that gives a respectable and honorable community for tomorrow. If you are a thug with your family how do you expect your child to be a leader? they walk in the very footsteps that you set out for them that is what you do everyday, not what you preach.
Lets create a nation that is honorable, dignified, respectful and educated by being exactly that as parent.
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