When my nuna was born, she was the most beautiful thing i have ever seen in my life. More beautiful than her mother lol. She was just quite, peaceful and very innocent flower in the garden. I thought to myself, what can I do to have her like this until she finishes tertiary.
Though I am doing all in my greatest power to be a great deserving father to her, she can still turn out to be something i don't desire for my own child. Though my believe is absolutely different from that of our own parents, who would force us to be whatever they wanted us to be, I still wish the best for her. I still wish that she becomes rather a pilot or an actuary compared to a dancer or an actor.
She has me. I've got her back, she is safe and well taken care of by me. I am a father and an emulation for her future husband. I don't want anything wrong for her in any form. Unlike in the past, I am not gunning for lobola, though I wish to see her getting married to someone who'll continue have her back, cherish her like I do and more.
So as a father, instictively I get to be exactly the person I want her to look for when the time is right. Hence the saying, daughters marry their father and sons marry their mothers. It's hard being a huligan, a player and anything you don't want your daughter to be exposed to, especially for us who live with them. I guess more benefits for the mother.
Thing is, with daughters; they are delicate, sweet and they get all the intimate benefits from both parents but from fathers they get more protection which sometimes revolutes into obession. The reason behind that is the experiences and a bit of guilt. We have done to other women or at least seen malicious effects happening to them. Once all those unfair incidents cross your mind, your heart pumps faster than water that just got back. I have to change my way of doing things around her, my mind always yell.
Daughters to fathers are a reminder of how great women are and why we love our mothers so much. Daughters are a pot of undying flowers in a hotel. Daughters change your thinking around what you see and how you do things. Daughters are the blessings, if they achieve the phenomenal in their lives, you as the father get all the benefits if you were there in her life from day one. Daughters needs to be respected. There'll be someone's mother one day.
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