What’s better, a diary or a friend?
I know some people rely on diaries and use them as a pillar to survive emotionally but what the hell is the point of them? The only thing they prove helpful for it recording your emotions and serving as a reminder to your unhappiness. They serve no purpose whatsoever in healing you, because quite frankly, how can they when they can’t offer comforting words or any solutions to your problems?
Perhaps I'm wrong, perhaps they do help… but do they help as much as what a trusted friend could?
A diary is a senseless act carried out by people who have nobody who they feel they can fully rely on, nobody they completely can trust, and in some ways that’s great… but then, who’s going to hold you together when telling your diary isn’t enough anymore?
I say we should all just find a human diary, one who can share the same intellectual thoughts as you and who will be there for you when you need them most… after all… diaries can’t give hugs right?
In life there should always be someone you can rely on, a physical barrier to keep your emotions from destroying your physical self. But what happens when you lose this person? Does life just go on… or do your walls finally feel like they’re going to crack?
Maybe a diary isn't so bad then after all, maybe it’s a better solution, because if you misplace or lose it you can easily replace it with another whereas if you lose that person who means the world to you… well, what’s left?
I sure as hell can tell you that it’s not much more than a hollow abyss where your happiness and hope use to be, maybe I should try this whole diary thing one day, maybe a silly statement with no reply can fill that hole?
Truth is it’s not the same. Let’s face it. That diary entry will never make me or you feel better and it sure as hell won’t offer any advice as to how to improve your situation. Also there are a few points to it that really don’t make sense, why would you say “with love” every time you’re finished “conversing” with the page? Saying “with love” brings about a deeper meaning… love is not something you freely share with the world but it should be something reserved for those people who are closest to you. And even then the word “love” should not be swung around as easily as what it is in everyday life.
And then there are those questions which people ask the page… like, for example, “what can I do?” or “how can I possibly get them to understand?” Let’s face it now, the book is never going to reply and it sure as hell isn't going to solve your problems for you.
Really, if you had to ask me I would say you should rather see a psychologist if you can’t find a friend you trust that deeply or are that connected to. This is still better than any book ever will be for your words won’t be wasted on deaf (and non-existent paper ears), but an actual human who understands the nature of humans and will actually succeed in helping you make conclusions and discover solutions, my advice to anyone out there: if ever you find someone with a good heart who cares about you simply because you are you, hold on and never let go, for if you do… well what can I say?
But it’s worth the risk because a breakable bond with a human is so much more meaningful than any book ever will be.
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