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Detachment

11 June 2012, 13:19

Today with most things in a downward spiral it is difficult to stay positive and detached.

We are bombarded with devastating and horrific happenings of every kind; from the normal negative cycles of financial difficulties to unbelievably inhumane crime and ridiculous leadership and hysterical politics. It is inevitable that we begin to feel out of control, helpless and hopeless.

The empathetic feelings for other’s trauma and experience are having an impact on our own lives. Striving to keep self, family, friends and colleagues safe and positive is becoming an ever increasing struggle. Harmony seems like an event in the distant past. Balance is a goal that is way out of our reach. Our basic need for safety and security has made us prisoners. We have lost a freedom of thought and movement that is precious to us and a necessary element for being and living balanced and happy lives.

Could this be a turning point? Could this be the darkest hour before dawn? Could we think of this as a time to keep faith and stay centred?

You may ask: How do we stay centred and why?

Definition of Detachment is a state in which a person overcomes his or her attachment to desire for things, people or concepts of the world and thus attains a heightened perspective. Detachment, as release from desire and consequently from suffering, is an important principle in most philosophies

Reasonable detachment is the practice of taking our egos out of a situation. Our egos are the essence that is reacting destructively to stress or negativity. With our egos out of the situation, our sense of inner peace is restored; we take control of our responses. This, in turn, changes our subjective opinion of the situation into an objective observation of the situation.

An important ingredient for compassion is unconditional love. Do you know what unconditional means? No judgment; not even positive judgment is acceptable in true unconditional acceptance. It also implies that there is no reward or punishment.

“Letting Go” does not imply I ...

  • stopped caring
  • am not available to help
  • am powerless

“Letting Go” is:

  • realizing that even though the outcomes are not under my control, my responses are controlled by how I choose to react
  • making the most of myself
  • to care by being supportive
  • allowing others to be human and giving them the opportunity create their own destinies
  • facing reality, learn and grow, because adversity it is an optimal period for expansion - changing the stuff we can
  • to accept that the moment is perfect in the greater scheme of things
  • to take responsibly and not blame
  • to avoid adjusting everything to my desires
  • to fear less and take each day moment by moment
  • to become what I dream I can be

It is important for us to see the logic in detachment – without understanding, we can fall into depression and become completely inert to the detriment of others but most of all to the detriment of ourselves.In this state we are useless.

The two opposites here are:

Positive -Detach constructively and reasonably.

Negative - Attachment is destructive and soul destroying.

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