How is it possible that you can love someone so much, that you are willing to change your lifestyle, your bad habits and even give your life just to ensure they continue to live? How is it that you can give up even some of your own dreams so that their dreams can become a reality? I have never understood why the above is, but I feel it every day.
On the 24th of January 2006 I met someone for the first time and it was love at first sight. Just seeing the doctor yank her out of her mother’s tummy, gave me so much joy and peace it was and still is beyond my understanding and comprehension. On that amazing day, at that amazing hour and that magnificent second, I met and saw my daughter for the first time. I did not know what to say, how to react but I was in love. Her first cry was music to my ears!
I had never met this person, I had never had a conversation with them yet there lay the apple of my eye. I had never thought of my life as one that was too significant until that moment. To me life was about the plans I had made and the fulfillment of those plans. Yes I had known I was going to be a father but there is nothing in this world that comes close to explaining the way that moment changed my life. The world in itself is full of wonders, there is the rising and setting of the sun. There is the rotation of the world around the sun. There is the perfect timing of the beginning and ending of seasons, yet none of them come close to that feeling of awe and being overwhelmed by love for someone you do not know.
As a Christian I have been taught that God gave his only son so that we could be saved from sin and have eternal life. I understand the sacrifice that Jesus made for us because my daughter today is more important than me. I live my life so that hers can be great. I make sacrifices so that she could have the best. Every time I pray, I pray more for her safety and fulfillment of her purpose that I do mine.
It has been an incredible journey ever since that day I met her. I have loved seeing her become a real person who can now tell me that she is still busy, so I must wait. Watching her grow and turn out to be a bright young lady has been a spectacular experience for me and I cherish every moment I spend with her. Even though I and her mother are not together anymore, she continues to be the star in my life. I understand the importance for a young girl having a father around. Many young ladies and gentlemen have lots of personal challenges today because their fathers were never around and did not set the right example. I have vowed to God and myself, that I will always be there for her and will never abandon her no matter what. I do not want her to ever have problems because daddy was not there. Though I make my own mistakes, I am always learning so I can be a better teacher.
There have been ups and downs in my life, just like most people. There have been challenges I have had to overcome. Having her in my life has been nothing but pure bliss and all those mountains become ant hills because she is the reason I do what I do and live. I know what pure love is today because of her. I know that pure love has no conditions. Pure love does what is right and acknowledges when it has wronged others. Pure love is not selfish, it is giving.There are many great fathers out there. I know a few of them and I hope we can always remember the good ones in the midst’s of the overwhelming bad ones. Those of us who truly cherish our children and see ourselves as teachers, motivators and molders of the great gift of life should stand tall. I salute you great fathers. With you in your children’s lives, there is hope for this nation.