“Stress is an ignorant state. It believes that everything is an emergency. Nothing is that important.” – Natalie Goldberg
You might be an addict.
Luckily you are not alone. A lot of people are addicted to anxiety. Some of us feel unsuccessful if we do not have enough on our to-do list. Just sit and observe some conversations. It is about who are the busiest, the person with the most to-do’s and the friend who has a 100 projects running at the same time.
What we don’t realize is that being so busy adds a lot of stress and anxiety. Neither is good for your health and it will actually hinder your progress.
So how do we break out of this addiction?
Find out what do you want
Usually we think we know what we want. However when we have to write it down you hit a wall. Why? Maybe we are not asking the right questions. So try rather to answer these questions: What excites you? If you had one week to live, what would you do. If you find answers to those questions you will know what you want out of life.
I now know what I want, what now?
Look at your to-do lists. Here I would like to suggest that you use one tool to capture and tasks. We tend to have 20 different places where we capture tasks and then keeping track of them is a task in itself. So look at your list and ask the following questions: Which of these are linked to what I want out of life? Which of the tasks are so important that if I don’t do them my life will come to a standstill? Which of these tasks are time-specific? Which of these tasks can a delegate?
When you asks these questions your tasks list will soon shrink from 10 to 3.
Now I have 3 things on my list. What do I do with all the extra time?
Find out what you need to do in order to get to your life goals and your big wants. Also use this time to relax and give back. Here’s a list of activities you can do in the freed-up time:
Connect with family and friends. Have some tea with them.
Learn a new skill. Maybe baking or fly-fishing. Whatever makes you excited.
De-clutter your computer, desktop and home
Go for a message
Give a message
…add more activities that excite you.
It is time to break free from the addiction to anxiety and stress. Slow down. De-clutter your to-do list and focus on the activities that bring you closer to your life’s dream and that excite you. Say NO to tasks lists that go on forever.
Make sure that you are aware of the here and now.
Savour life’s little pleasures.