by Athi Phila Tikipeni
In our days people get married but most of those marriages don’t last for long. They get divorce very quickly. One of the reasons that make people divorce is that they don’t know or they don’t have a proper reason to get married because if they knew they would not even think of divorcing. It is very important to merry a person that u know u love with everything you have and will be with them through everything life throws at you not because of what they have at that moment and once they lose it you don’t want to be around and I think if it could be like that than not a lot of people will end up divorcing.
These days’ people take marriage very slightly, sometimes they don’t even realise that they not happy and just get over excited when they are asked to merry and only realised after they are married that this is not actually what they want and end up divorcing. This is another reason for none lasting marriages.
When you are getting married with someone you need to be sure. This sentence need to be emphases because this person you going to merry is someone who’s going to be your partner for the rest of your life, in days of happiness and battiness. That’s why you need to think whether you want to spend the rest of your life with that person or not. The main point is, you need to love a person in order to tolerate everything that might make you want to leave him/her so that is why it is very important to merry a person you truly love not because of something they have like money, looks or his /she’s famous.
Marriage is a huge commitment and I think people misunderstood it with relationships where you can just walk out if you feel it’s not working for you without having to go to so much trouble like going to court and end up losing things that belonged to you because now you have to share with the one you divorcing, that is -why it is important to make sure that you are up for it. In marriage you need to be sure when you say “I do” in front of the judge and a whole lot of people, family and friends so that is why it is so important to love this person. You need to know what kind of person you want to be with so that you can have a list of features you want him/her to have and make sure he/she meets the requirements for example, in your list if you don’t want a person who drink alcohol every week. Then you don’t merry that person because he/she is not the person you want to be with and don’t force things she/he doesn’t qualify or she/he is not good enough for you.
Yandisa Mthambeka who is a Social work at Goodwood and she is also about to get married in month time said”its important when you get married make sure you marry the right person and for proper reason because that reason can break your marriage or STAIN your marriage, because when thing doesn’t work,the first question you going to ask youself is ‘why did I merry this person”then its when you reasons will come and answer you.and then from there is when you need to decide it is not important to marry someone for materialistic reasons. Because when this person loses those materialistic things she/he has then the marriage is over.
The fundamental principles of marriage is TRUST which is T stand for trust means compluse you need to talk about your feeling need to talk about your expectation avoid assumptions. R- Respect yourself and your wife/husband lastly the vows that you guys took the day you getting married. U- Understand that marriage because marriage is about compromised and willing to understanding each other. S-secrefy willing to go an extra mile to their love because love is a doing. once again T- talk about anything you feel because communicate is the key to be able to achieve success toward marriage.”
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