There is a question one of my friends asked us lately while we were just chilling outside my yard. “Guys, what would you do if you witness a situation where…where you stumble on a naked pic of your mother? Or-“ When he realized that a frown has just creased our brows , he opted for a softer rephrase of his question: “What would you guys feel like when you see a naked pic of any woman you hold in high regard floating carelessly on the net?” One by one we shook our heads, some of my friends even guffawed. Not even one of us bothered to answer such an untimely question. The topic died prematurely, and we moved on to soccer, then office politics and wrapped up on real politics of South Africa. Why must we spend our time and effort debating nudity of young women whom mostly post their own pics willingly?
But when I was on my own, laying there in the dark all by myself in my spacious bed with a lumpy mattress. Tossing and turning, the sleep eluding me at every turn, my mind revisited this topic and stayed there. And I asked myself again and again: “Why most young women seem to enjoy posting semi-naked pics of themselves on Facebook?” Are they too confident of their looks, and care less about what will happen tomorrow? What will they say to their own children when their own children stumble on those pics? And a lot of to-be reasons to my questions flooded my mind instantly.
But the following day I decided to summon my courage and asked one young woman I follow on twitter whom is uploading one semi-naked pic after another on her Facebook profile. She seems to be enjoying this. Every time she uploads a pic, she will twit: “Check out mwaa nu pic in ma brend nu Bikini.” And yes, when you do care enough to click on her Facebook link you will be greeted by her own pic in a clingy new bikini which to me; appears more to belong to her little sister than her self. But lets leave her and her tight-fitting bikini just there.
Then her response to my question was a succinct one: “Becoz I can.” Hmm.
“But, why most of your pics are semi-naked, are you craving attention?” I waited for her response on my second question but after three days of waiting in vain, it was clear to me that she was not willing to engage me any further.
According to a study conducted by certain diligent team of researchers at the University of Buffalo, young women are likely to continue to assert their self-worth by posting photos compared to boys. And the reasons are too obvious. While it is a well known fact that men normally use their strength in the form violence to assert their self-worth and command respect, most women would rather use their physical appearance. And on Facebook and other social networks, it easier to get approval than it is even to be in real life.
My conclusion here is, since a majority of men are constantly looking for sex and invariably stumble on love, maybe men shouldn’t be the ones objecting this ‘female exhibitionist’ conduct. I guess, if we were used to showering our women with compliments, tell them how sexy they are, maybe, just maybe- they wouldn’t go as far as seeking approval by posting semi-naked pics of themselves on Facebook. Our girls should just continue to flaunt their bodies as they wish.