I need the support of the people of France and South Africa in securing my daughters safe return to her dad.
I am a South African father whose wife took my daughter to France on a holiday and never returned, even after signing an agreement to return. The lawyers requested this agreement because we were all afraid my wife would abduct my daughter. It was not enough to stop her and my wife kept my daughter in France in February 2013. I have been working through the legal process ever since. And on the 3rd April 2014, the French courts determined that my wife’s behavior is illegal and granted my request that Lili comes home to South Africa.
I have been in France since 13 April 2013 and been denied time with my daughter this is illegal, I am shocked and distressed. Lili just had her birthday on the 9th of May and I was not allowed to see her or even to speak to her on the phone.
I have appealed to my wife to allow me to be with my daughter and herself to learn all I have to about my daughters habits and that my wife come with my daughter and me back to South Africa so my daughter can get to know her South African family who miss her and worry about her every day. Sadly my wife has rejected this and told me I can only see my daughter if I drop the judgement and now my daughter is missing and been hidden away from me by my wife’s parents and the people from the town of Font Romeu. Lili has been abducted a second time!
My wife has now attacked me in the media. I am deeply disturbed and concerned that my wife has seen fit to use our daughter in the media to protect herself from her own illegal actions.
Sadly one side of this story is being posted as the truth, I do not want to mud sling via the media, and it is not in the interests of my daughter or my wife to put all the allegations into the public domain. There is still the “custody” to be decided back in South Africa and this media and social attack on me by my wife and her supporters will have a terrible impact on all parties for this process especially my daughter.
All the allegations have been heard in the French courts and multiple judges have made the decision based on this and rejected these allegations as untrue. I have had to come to a foreign country and trusted the French legal systems and international agreements to protect my daughter. This matter is now in the hands of the South African courts, where my wife chose to begin our divorce.
To Lili one day you will see all of this but remember both your parents love you very much. There have been mistakes made but when you are old enough to read this I promise these mistakes will be fixed.
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