One thing I never want to do is prolong my welcome in this world - whenever I say this people always ask "But Peter, don't you want to see your grandkids?"
Yes I do, but I'm not fond of the idea of living long enough to see my great grandkids, which I'd obviously spoil rotten, and make excuses for all their shenanigans.
Going before another generational batch comes along is in my opinion, the surest way of escaping any possible tin pot relative that may come along through birth, by that I mean a bad gene that gives rise to something like a Brown Noser, heaven forbid! If you are scratching your head unsure what "Brown Noser" means, I'd advise you to stop reading at this point, it may offend you, because the chances are that You could be one - but what I say is as true as if I was standing on a mountain wearing flowing white robes and sandals reading directly from an ancient scroll written in hieroglyphics.
My Psychiatrist friend says Brown Nosing is a type of mental illness, while most people have the desire to be accepted and appreciated, the Brown Noser's self esteem is so low that he has an obsessive, compulsive, uncontrollable urge to get a pat on the back from his Superiors' or Teachers' even if it means peddling lies based on hearsay and conjecture. The Brown Noser is the bane of all good Managers and the cornerstone of all incompetent Management because a good Manager (who has decent working relations with his staff) would enjoy the confidence of all those around him without depending on rumor or innuendo.
However, it is Not the Brown Noser who destroys with his lies but the reaction that meets his lies - in a recent incident
a Brown Noser made a number of false accusations about a certain Manager's staff member, the correct way for that Manager to have handled that is to have had a private chat with the affected staff member and say "Tom (mention the name because Brown Nosers thrive on remaining anonymous) has said this and that about you, what do you say about that?" If however the Manager entertains the brown nosing and goes as far as protecting the Brown Noser's identity, staff morale takes an irreparable knock as an atmosphere of suspicion is fostered, not conducive to pleasant and constructive working relations.
Rule of thumb is: Always know the difference between real friends, fake friends, colleagues and acquaintances, and none must fall into more than one of these categories, though I've seen that happen for networking reasons, it is neither advisable nor wise.
The best thing one can do to any Brown Noser is to stay very far away from them or to send them packing, most spend a large part of their day avoiding any real work in any case.
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