Hurting someone by making mistakes especially if it is someone you care about will take a lot out of you as a person especially if you don’t mean to hurt someone. After you hurt the person ,you the person that broke the trust ,and did the hurting will be forced to look into himself /herself as a person and deal with it .
So, the way you deal with what you did is to look at what you have done and what the implications of your hurt was, you mull with it in you head and then boom!!!! Guilt sets in guilt causes you to be honest with yourself, and then depending on what you did, you have to see if you can stand to look at yourself in the mirror.
Now let’s say, you are standing in front of the mirror and you don’t like who you see what should be done? Let’s say what you did to that someone, is so bad that you think there is just no way, so now depression sets in. and you just want to crawl under a rock.
Mmmm Sounds like a lot of us yes/no? you see if we dint react in this fashion or similar and just got on with life I think we would probably be classified as psychotic . All of us would go around doing just what we wanted, with no implications and no emotions
Now I believe people are all born inherently good, and then life shapes us, and we become. I also believe if normal people get faced with a problem we will react to it as best we know how. This is built in to the way we function as human beings,
It is possible to overcome this guilt we carry ,and you will find ,with time every thing gets better, it is a strange thought that we learn to live with our mistakes however bad our decisions has been .
We also try to make thing up to the person that we hurt ,the reason we do this is so we can at least say to ourselves hay we were forgiven it couldn’t have been so bad .
And then we go after all this and justify to others, why we did bad thing in the first place right or wrong. .
The trick is to find a way to forgive yourself for doing something that’s probably most of us do and that is to hurt someone, be it a life altering decision that changes you life or just fiscally hurting someone on the play ground i am sure any action of hurting will have as just like many other things in life a reaction .
So how do we avoid all this? We don’t, you see I have never in my short time here on earth met a person who hasn’t hurt another in some way or form even inevitably. I think it is part of the human condition, and it involves feeling of jealousy, sometimes love, sometime insecurity and also gluttony. So in plain -Pig headedness
So is their a way to be les pigheaded? Yes there is, Look inside yourself or better yet go look in the mirror look past the man/woman that disgust you…… and I think if you look hard enough, you will see that person that was born as a good person, then find a way to bring that person out from all the bad thing you have berried him/her with life doings , once you have done that then you can move on,
You see, we get one life, one chance to get it, one journey to get it right, and sometimes we get it wrong , we should not stone ourselves for our mistakes as this makes the problem only worst, rather try not to make the mistakes in the first place
Making mistakes hurt’s people around you, and in turn you feel there pain, because it comes back becoming a viscous circle, and before we know it we end up bad
So next times you feel you mite hurt someone with your actions, look for the person inside, and follow him/her because a good person does not make bad mistakes.
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