I have to
agree with Joe – the guy with the awesome profile pic – Sometimes I don’t get
women, for many of the same reasons that he states. But in general I don’t get
some people. Some women I do get, however.
I once met a
girl at a tough stage in my life. I was selling policies for a living and I
well and truly sucked at it, I was probably not cut out to be a salesman. I
worked long hours without great success and only barely made ends meet. Evenings and weekends I spent
studying, clinging on to the hope that a degree in finance would change my
It kept me alive, but also ruined my chances living a normal life for
three years, and probably impacted negatively on my day job. I rented a small
flat with a mate and drove an old Toyota Tazz. I was the product epitomising the
intergenerational mediocrity that, on the face of it, gets bred into some
My grandfather never knew his own parents, he turned out to be a drunkard,
my own dad feels like he has failed at
life and here am I, an average oke with massive ambition and good intentions,
but nothing really to show for it.
By the time
I met this girl I had endured three failed relationships – partly due to my
lifestyle choices and partly due to some of the reasons that Joe have
mentioned. By that time I had made up my mind.
I would remain a bachelor until I
was 35 and would've become the type of guy that Joe mentioned, the one that all those
shallow girls would die for. Until then I would be content with being a few
girls’ mistakes for the odd weekend or so.
And then I got to know her, a stunning, super intelligent woman and daughter of a very successful
self made man. I was intimidated, no doubt, because I knew what attributes women are looking for.
Surprisingly she wished
to search behind my shabby facade and was inspired by the promise of what could
be. As a friendship started evolving ever more into the form of a romantic
relationship I made no secret of the fact that my road to success would be
tougher than most and that it would require sacrifices especially from her, yet
she chose that road.
As it were,
12 months later I was earning more than ten times as much as I earned when we got
together, she was a big part of the reason why, we are still reaping the fruits
was born like that. Maybe it is thanks to her horrendous previous relationship
with a silver spoon boy that her perspective was changed - I don't know, but I get her.
And I know
a couple more like her – lion hearted women, willing to start with nothing but a dream,
willing to fight and build.
Yes, you’ll always get them who are looking for the
instant lifestyle improver
relationship, just like you’ll always get your strictly plastic D-cup breasts guys, but if you look in the right
places you’ll find those of whom it can be said that only they can truly bring the
best out of a man.