Shalom and greetings in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ amen!
This is not the devil of today or a modern problem. Many similar incidents have happened over the years. Yet non-of us could ever get used to it. Everyday and every time it happens, it sends waves of fears, shock and disbelieves. This is one of the worse ever evil only human beings are gifted in hiding it. Yet when it eventually comes out, it leaves tears of sorrows and too many whys? Now the question is, is this evil for only certain people? The yes answer couldn’t be too far from being true…human beings are constantly battling against overcoming their own emotions. Hence I say it goes deeper than “I am fine or Okay!
If I am fine, the question should still be; how much fine am I talking about? If I am okay, how much okay am I referring to? I am fine and okay does not make things fine and okay inside anyone. It may and will and is fooling the individuals but it does not fool the pretender. But no, I am going too far now! There is no way I can call them or him or her “a pretender”. This has nothing to do with anyone of us playing the “nice guy part” but is just the norms of the society. The society has taught us to fake and hid our reality. It has indoctrinated us to believe that we should all have a standard of our well being. It has so far discouraged us to have the sense of honesty-ness in our self-examination…. In a way it has shown us the easiest way of avoiding reality by teaching us the computer’s modern way of cut and paste….. “I am fine” as all are.
But again, let us be honest here…does “how are you?” have the best interest of the other person in heart or is just the norms? If it is just the norms, how would one be genuine in his or her response? How many how are yous have we heard yet their echo were just malicious and suspicious. I share my issues with the one I consider friend, the next day everyone talks about me in the street. No wonder many of our friends and loves ones have hit the iceberg with all their ‘I am fine and Okays”. How long will it takes us to realize that ‘I am fine’ does not necessarily mean I am fine? Believe you me, it goes deeper than this!
So many times we are using someone’s outer appearance to define his/her state of his/her well being. For the fact that you saw me carrying my laptop does not mean that I am fine! Sometimes we have been fooled by the fact that someone is driving a fancy car and we then conclude that he’s doing well in life. Yes, doing well in life does not mean that deep down; his/her emotions are also doing well. There is more and deeper stuff to my nice suit and my white shoes! You may only see this glamorous celebrity who appears in each and every newspaper, but believe me you, it goes deeper than that…Don’t be fooled by the surface, inside there might be dangerous poison of emotions running high.
On the other hand, it’s not all about the public viewing or interpreting our well being based on our outer looks. In many cases, we try to fool the public with our looks! We know that there are issues bothering us but somehow we refuse to be open and keep on saying we are fine. We use our titles, professions, positions, glamour, and community standings to camouflage our state of our emotions well being. Yet we know deep down that it goes deeper than our outer looks. Sometimes, of which it may make lots of sense, we laugh and pretend to be enjoying life on the streets and in the office. However, we know that when we think of going home, is like we have been condemned to hell already.
Here is the thing, hiding our issues, problems and emotion is like setting ourselves in a time bomb. In a matter of time it will explode and turns against us. When emotions had enough of the coverage and hidings, they’ve a tendency of rebelling and over powering the owner. Emotions respect neither title nor position. They have an ability to do the unthinkable. They are able to see or view someone you love as good as dead! Emotions could be uncontrollable sometimes. They’re able to draw some foreign strength you’ve never imagined. Emotions are dangerous! They’re just as good as homing pigeons, no matter how far they go; they’ll always come back home and this time, they’re coming to destroy.
I listen to radio, watch TV and read newspapers, all I hear is the case of our own Hester Salmans, (may her soul rest in peace) the police killing their families and turning guns to themselves. Many times we fail to come to terms with such reports because yesterday you shared a joke with him or her just to receive shock report that he/she hanged himself/herself! You’ve just said goodbye to a friend and the next thing you hear is he killed his family with a table knife and ended by taking his life. Now question sessions starts. “What really happened? How could he do such a thing? No you don’t understand! Here I am talking about a man or woman literal killing his/her own family. Yes, I am referring to that nice smiling guy you know. Yes you are correct, I am talking about the very same gentleman you saw him driving that new car or carrying that new laptop. You see, there is one thing you never realized that behind that beautiful suit lies a bomb of ready emotions waiting to strike!
Of course you can quickly jump into conclusion and say all the nasty things your lips are gifted to say. Probably because you have never been in his/her situation! But believe you me, regardless of what you say, you and me don’t know exactly how long it took for those emotions to be prepared and what exactly the situation was. And before we could pass our own judgement, let’s just remember that we are not innocent as the society. We are also to be blame as we have imposed this notion that to be considered strong by the society is to fake joy and happiness. We don’t really ask people how are they doing for their best interest but to scoff them. We have failed to build a true community that cares for each other. In the end people goes to church faking spirituality just to be in the level of the other “holy people” while deep down they are hurting.
Yes, people walk the streets with all the latest phones and clothes, hoping that somehow their inner wounds will be cured. Others goes as far as taking drugs and other substance with the hope of caching the standard of friends, yet, deep down it goes deeper than the perceived standard. Some individuals have put themselves in deep debt through loans and loan sharks, just to buy a car like all his friends who are driving. But these, in the end becomes a burden too have to carry and it could become one of the cause of grieve and sorrow.
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