If someone in a liability in your life; of he/she goes! I’m sure you have people in your life who make you laugh and sometimes give you tears of joy. Furthermore, there are people who are always there to give you a shoulder to cry and lean on, listen to you, support you and give you assurance that you are a wonderful person and you can do more than you can imagine. These are the kind of people that you need in your life. Some of your friends will teach you kindness,
forgiveness, love, patience etc, but some are just there to be
parasites. It is, however, not their intention to do so – it happens subconsciously without them realizing it. They just become used to it and you allow them to, that’s why they are still there.
You need to start cutting all ties with friends or individuals who cause stress and all sorts of aches. You deserve to be happy and live life to your fullest potential. I once discussed this with a colleague and he told me that sometimes you need to be the “captain of a sinking ship.” That is true; I said. But you can’t be the captain of a ship that has been sinking for years. Some people are just too stubborn to even take your advice. These types of individuals will always bring you down the ladder. You need to stay away from them. Numerous friendships will not last forever. I used to have very close friends in high school, but our friendship status has changed because of location and different preferences, so as with university friends. What I’m trying to say is that good and bad friendships will somehow end. But you need to stiffen that upper lip and
make new friends.Find friends who will challenge you, criticize you and not hide it when you are going off the rail. Refrain from friends who will pressure you and drag you into uncomfortable situations without taking your feelings into consideration. Such people are labelled as “
toxic individuals.” The toughest part though, is to tell them that your friendship is over. Breaking any form of relationship is indeed tough, but yet again, how long are you gonna wait.
You were supposed to be successful 3 years ago, but because of your lying, backstabbing, unproductive, manipulative and strenuous friends – you haven’t even smelled the fragrance of success.
Talk to your friends now. Don’t threaten them, but tell them how you feel – let them know that if they don’t change, you are out. The world is full of people who are able and willing to help improve you, so why waste time learning painful lessons from people who don’t truly care? Start associating yourself with people who are likely to improve you. But don’t act as if you want something from them, just now you become the “unproductive” friend. This is a give-and-take situation. Associating yourself with those who are likely to improve you is one of the biggest steps you can take in becoming a better person...
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