I have, on several occasions swallowed my frustrations with articles and even comments about the whole feminism/ chauvinism/ equal rights issue…
I have been tolerant to the ranting of the feminist columnists and have likewise scoffed at the blatantly sexist comments made by some of the male gender.
I think that it is time that I “grow a pair” or “lay it down on the table” and offer a few thoughts on the subject.
Let me start, though by painting a brief background… I am not the typical sys-male stereotype so often referred to by the extreme feminists. (I can’t believe I actually used that term – I absolutely loathe it!!) I consider myself to be reasonably enlightened, and have no issue with equality. I actually enjoy cooking, and avidly grasp the opportunity to be creative in the kitchen, while my wife sits back with a glass of wine and enjoys the treat.
I have an eye for art and appreciate talent beyond the types displayed at Loftus, or between the pages of smutty magazines. I contribute fairly towards raising the children, and am not shy to do my bit of the housework either.
I have held several positions where I reported to a woman, and can honestly say that I have enjoyed every one of them. The finesse, the organization and the class which a woman brings to management is irreplaceable.
What I am certainly not though, is metrosexual…
I am in many ways a “man’s man”. I enjoy gulping down copious quantities of brandy with the boys on a hunting weekend; I drive a 4x4, and keenly look forward to the next romp in the sack with my wife! I am certainly not homophobic, but that is not my particular preference either…
So where am I heading with this? Well, I would merely like to represent the millions of guys out there, who honestly believe that they are making a not- too- bad effort at being a fairly decent sort of guy… and I also want to appeal to the persistently- whining- whenches to just lighten up a bit…
You see, girls, sexuality is a part of our being.
Desirability and attraction are characteristics inherent to every species on the planet, and are geared towards procreation and survival of the species. If we all start complaining about every little subtle nuance of attraction between a guy and a girl, we are heading towards our own destruction. If we gripe about being stereotyped and degraded or humiliated every time someone casts a glance in our direction, then we deserve to be rejected and ignored.
I am all for protection against harassment, and personally won’t hesitate to “take matters into my own hands” if I ever confront a rapist… but dammit… there is absolutely nothing wrong with healthy attraction and consensual chemistry!
I am degraded and appalled by the stereotyping being forced on me by some of our uber- liberal feminists.
If I ever open the car door for someone, and she gives me the “equality glare” I will politely close it again, and drive off… leaving her right there to be equal with whomever she likes on the sidewalk. If I compliment you on your perfume, or your dress, or your hair, and you snub me… that will be the last thing I ever say to you.
If I open a door for you, and you don’t accept my chivalry, so be it… I will walk ahead, and you can choose to follow like a dog, or go your merry way.
You see… I honestly don’t intend any of these tokens as an indication of my superiority, or to remind you of your position on the gender ladder. In fact, I really mean it as a symbol of respect.
I respect the role of women in our community. I honour you for being mothers and carers and mentors; for being leaders and providers and role- models. I truly and literally “stand back” to allow you pre- eminence, because of my reverence for who and what you are. When you shrug that off, you deny me the right to be the chivalrous knight, and degrade me reluctantly to being the Neanderthal you so despise.
Yes, I acknowledge not every woman desires to me a mother… in exactly the same measure that not every guy wants to be a dad… Each one to his own…
But be honest with yourself girls. On the day when you do that little extra, when you wear the naughty lingerie we are not supposed to know about, or when you catch a glimpse of your own cleavage in the mirror and it brings a smile to your own lips, isn’t there just a little something in you that really hopes I will notice?
I appeal to you… be a woman in every sense of the word. Break the shackles of inequality which held you back for so many years. (Hell, I will personally provide the bonfire if you would like to burn your bra’s) but please, please… just be a woman.
Don’t try to be something you are not. There’s no need to be hard and cold and cynical. There’s no need to spend all day trying to prove a point. If you are exhausting yourself trying to be equal to men, stop it… you will never get down to our level!
Oh! Before I remove my tongue from my cheek… if you do accept my token of respect and enter through the door I am holding open for you… could you wiggle just a little as you walk please…
There, it’s done! I have said it… so lay into me… I have the balls to take it!
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