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Look On The Bright Side

08 November 2012, 12:24

HOW TO CONFRONT THE DARK SIDE OF ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS, ONCE AND FOR ALL

Romantic relationships have a dark side to them. It is not easy to see the dark side and recognise the mission impossible that we have embarked on. Truly, when you take a closer, microscopic, look at the needs that we have in a relationship, it becomes apparent that MOST relationships are PSYCHIATRIC WARDS. This is where all mental suffering of various kinds takes place and the partner is treated as a doctor/psychotherapist. Unfortunately, each psychotherapist in a romantic relationship also happens to be a psychiatric patient expecting therapy from their partner. So, it's a vicious cycle of needs that go unmet or only met half-way to the frustration of the other. No wonder relationships are crazy. The therapy we get from the other is never enough because we don't ask for it directly but demand it through our attention-seeking actions and frustrations. We are moody because we need therapy but are afraid to admit we are crazy.

Well, my aim is not to spoil any romantic relationship out there (even if I wanted to I wouldn't succeed coz they get spoiled on the own by the patients in them). My aim is to say beware that you have been appointed a doctor and if you are not careful you will drive your patient off the roof. The only solution I know is that each patient and doctor should learn to go within themselves to find the solutions to their upbringing problems, where all the trauma and attention deficiency occurred. No matter how much you try, no matter what therapeutic methods you employ, the patient will not come alright. They will always wish for more, because it's not you, but a void within.

This is the Dark Side of Romantic Relationships, now look on the bright side (and tell me when you have found it).

Wagago

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