Love is like a bowl of soup
"What is love" sounds cheesy, does it not? The reason it does, is because Should we not all know what love is, is it not a stupid question?. Well I don’t know! But I do care. Here is why.
Love has been described as “"the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another". Love may describe actions towards others or oneself based on compassion or affection.”
Love for the lay man also describes
- Feelings, states, and attitudes, range from pleasure ("I loved that meal") to attraction to one another ("I love my partner").
- "Love" may refer specifically to the passionate desire and intimacy of making love to the sexual love of eros, to the emotional closeness.
- love, to the platonic love that defines friendship,
- or to the profound oneness or devotion of religious love, or to a concept of love that encompasses all of those feelings.
So if you look at the differences love becomes a human emotion quite difficult to define
However we all have our different ways we show our love let me try explain.
1.Attraction and Falling in love
Normally when we fall in love with lets say food, there would be senses in our body’s that would trigger, Now lets say you have been out at work the whole day you get home you open the door, to a heavenly smell that ensnares your senses, upon you smelling the food you now start to look for the source of this smell, and your nose leads you towards the stronger sent of the food. Now lets say your nose leads you to the kitchen, you are now intrigued of what could smell so good, you now see a pot on the stove you open the lit to find a heavenly broth you cant contain yourself now you take a spoon and have a taste, only to burn your lip cause you didn’t let the broth cool off.
Now falling in love, is just like that for people, who falls in love with another persons you would walk onto a room and just like you noticed the smell of the broth but instead you get overwhelmed with the physical looks and attractions of one another Now none of us is the same in what we love and who we love, some people like soups and some people hates soup, The list of thing we are attracted to in people also varies from person to person. This attraction builds up and we follow our hearts instead of our noses, we look at this person and before we know it we find our self willing to take the risk of letting the person into our being, taking the risk of getting hurt, or burnt, and we expect the other person to precipitate, in the same way.
So in a sense you can say both people were looking to find the same broth cooking on the stove.
2. Exploring our love:
Now exploring our love, Just like that Warm broth you have just opened up the pot and burned your lip with ,that is if you dint have the good sense, to let the broth cool in the spoon before tasting , the broth has now to finish cooking ,making sure all the flavors in the pot develop, before we dish up and take the pot to the table ,one at the table ,we may or may not say grace ,and then we start to devour the soup, as fast as we can , trying not to burn our lips, and if the soup is good we don’t ad anything to it ,except for a freshly baked bread if needed, but we eat the whole pot because it is tasty .
Now in life we do the same , After falling in love , witch is like the cooking period , we get to know the person better ,we spend time with them, and when we are ready ,and we see that the relationship has develop to greater level , we take the emotional plunge and we invest our hearts into this relationship ,we explore our emotions both mentally and fiscally, and if we like what we found in each other we by this stage lock everybody that is not supposed to be there out, We then commit to the taste of what we found in one another because we liked what we found, later on we mite have children with each other or children may not even be needed however. We take the long or short road of life with each other, depending on our lifespan as long as we don’t let others in..
Witch bring me to the following
3. Platonic love and friendship
When we have our second round we notice the broth is now a little bit colder and the but the flavor has set in but it still remains good, we would be wise to make sure if we flavor the broth with salt, that the salt bottle lid is screwed on tightly, and it does not spill to much salt into our broth, ruining our broth.
Platonic love and friendship, is the building blocks of love, it is the way people over the ages has stayed together and have build life’s with each other .this is also the stage were you don’t have the same amount of lust for each other but, because your loves foundation has grown, over time you need from time to time spice things up to ,rekindle the flame, this can only be done by true love ,and friendship. However it is at this time that you should you spice things up to much that you will ruin your love life. Sometimes it is better not to ad to much spice
4.Oneness religious love
Now once we have consumed the whole pot of broth and, we experience the fullness of what we consumed, we are completely satisfied. Normally we would thank the one who prepared the meal and if it was a Sunday afternoon we would sneak to the bedroom and lay down for a nap.
At this stage of passion all the fire has burned out, you are older now but you are completely satisfied with the love you have come to know, throughout life, we thank our now older partner for the path that was taken, and one day one of you passes on, leaving one behind, with the yearning for that love.
Some of us will look for it again, but only a few people ever find it again, some of us is so consumed with the loss of the love they had that they, cant get themselves to look at love again.
Love has a lot of pit falls there is so many things that can go rite and so many that can go wrong, it is just as fragile as life, if you happen to love someone, and you are lucky enough to make it thru, blessed will your life be !!!!
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