I had to learn a lot on my own, that’s because I wanted to learn a lot and I suppose that’s how I’ll always remain, my questioning nature, I like that about myself - rank and authority have never intimidated me, so that helped.. I guess – I think it starts with remembering that everyone is busy fighting their own battles, you know life, if it’s not one thing, then it’s the other.
The first real lesson I learnt about myself is that I strongly hate and despise injustice and unfairness, even today; I will fight tooth and nail with anyone upholding views that are filled with lies in order to justify bigotry, racism, xenophobia and homophobia. You might think this odd, especially since so many people I’ve known suffered greatly from bigotry or some other similar prejudices, it was never about trying to be different, it’s about trying to be real and at times it’s too much a tightrope to walk – you try to be that person that just calls a spade a spade but more than that, you also try to be the kind of person who goes round telling others “I’m okay, you’re okay, and all is well and will be okay soon”, pretty soon, you find yourself having to chop down some trees though, to leave behind and be left behind by those whom you believed would be with you until death, that’s life, it’s hardly ever smooth-sailing and all the better for it I’m told, builds character they say.
The second thing I had to do is look at how the prejudices of others had rubbed off on me, how they’d tainted me somehow, when I compared my thinking to theirs, I knew, I was free, no real damage was done because I’d knowingly or unknowingly retained my right to make up my own mind…I realized that a lot was pegged to my religious upbringing.. It’s never easy leaving behind, or even questioning things that adults had instilled in you from when you were a toddler but I had too many questions on religion, everywhere I went I saw only one thing from my fellow Christians, intolerance – I couldn’t turn away from the comfort provided by religious faith and prayer so I’ve blocked all the other noise out quite well if I must say so myself.
If religion encourages you to discriminate against fellow human beings, if it harshly judges how fellow human-beings choose to live, maybe you need a new religion - too much misery in this world is caused by those who want others to live and believe as They live and believe, and with this being the month of coming out let me wish gay people everywhere the strength to live the best lives they can even in a sea of small-mindedness - I’ve said this before and I will say it again; it is None of anybody’s business who people prefer to hop in the sack with; one should be quite comfortable with their own sexuality without having the need to constantly hate on other people’s love lives.
If couples (whether straight or gay) are happy, be happy for them and work on your own love life because loving relationships Always require work, a lot of work.
Imagine how much better a world it would be if we focused less on Mileys Cyruse’s bums and her suggestive gyrating (surely not the first time we see such naughtiness and daring in dance) and more on poverty alleviation, caring for the ill and homeless etc. Imagine if we actually focused on our own peace of mind and relationships instead of worrying about Pope Benedict, Wentworth Miller and Tyler Perry’s coming out (or staying) in the closet, what business is that of ours? Dan Pearce says that the world is too obsessed with defining sexuality for everyone and attaching labels to it.
Any time any person openly leaves the norm, their sexuality becomes, more often than not, the absolute defining characteristic of that person. It becomes the first thing people think about and often the first thing they mention. Every other part of that person all but disappears. This is for the people who choose to be unique, don’t be afraid to be different.
If you're a little weird? Work it!
A little different? OWN it!
Better to be a nerd than one of the herd!
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